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OT: GAH! Too many irons in the fire

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Thu, 10/31/2019 - 1:34pm

No one has to read this, I just need to spew some first-world problems.

XH and his GF are on the war path now to get DS out of the college he is in since he's so unhappy and his living arrangement is toxic. Lots of calls and texts. It's not that I feel harassed at all, just that it's so many people who are spun up about it right now. The kid has a rash that I thought was the water but since it hasn't gone away and I've asked around about water there, I think it's a stress rash. He's also lost a lot of weight so I'm not sure if that's because he's stressed or he's worried about spending too much money/using up his meal plan.

The class I'm in now for my master's degree is way outside of my area of expertise even in my field and I'm really struggling with a horrible assignment, and the biggest one of the semester, and it's due in a few days. It's a nasty thing with very little info and I've got to spin straw into gold. (Rumpelstilskin reference for those who don't know.)

Last week two coworkers got fired. I saw one coming but the other was a complete surprise and I think undeserved. Based on the positions that have turned over I'm starting to question the stability of the company or at least the direction being set by those in charge.

I'm not sleeping well due to all that and my back hurting, which I have figured out is also a stress-related pain. Since I'm not sleeping well, I am not exercising as fully either. I just feel shit out of shape. And, it's not my thyroid. I just had that checked and things are super with it (shit, was hoping that was a large part of it and just upping the meds would take away some of this).

My DH doesn't seem to see it but he's being a butt-head about things right now and not offering empathy at any turn except for work. I'm sure as a stepparent he's dreading that DS may come back to live at the house for a semester (one option is to do online classes through the system he's in so he has the right number of credits to transfer next year). And I get hypocritical statements from him that frustrate me but I'm just too tired to call him on his crap right now. (For example, YSS is pushing to get his own car and DH's statement when it came up is that he has no control over what BM and YSS do --though it's in their decree that both parents have to agree to a vehicle-- but out the other side of his mouth he's saying that he and BM would never have let OSS go into an apartment his first year in college --um, he didn't even know OSS was touring the campus he ended up going to until OSS let it slip that he and BM were going the day before the tour and a day after BM called DH to get him to take YSS to a dentist appointment that day, never mentioning the tour.)

I also have volunteer work and other appointments and get-togethers I fell like I'm cramming in between all this stuff.

 

 

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Submitted by Sparkl3s on Thu, 10/31/2019 - 1:45pm

I got shingles from stress in college in my early 20's twice. If it's painful to the touch keep an eye on it. I had it for two weeks.They give you herpies medication for it. There might be a student clinic on campus that can look it super cheap normally.
 

Hugs and good vibes from me as well! 

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Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 10/31/2019 - 2:11pm

The kid has a rash that I thought was the water but since it hasn't gone away and I've asked around about water there, I think it's a stress rash.

Years ago, when we were house hunting (and I was very stressed out), I developed eczema on my left palm. I couldn't figure out what was going on, then my sister's MIL told me that the same thing happened to her right before she took her nursing exam. It was stress. Hers went away, mine hasn't.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Thu, 10/31/2019 - 4:20pm

{{{{HUGS}}}}

Vent away, hon! Keeping things bottled up is bad for you.

I can relate to so much of that... bad back, not sleeping well, stressed, too bloody tired to exercise... PM me any time. xoxo

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Submitted by DHsfamilyfromhell on Fri, 11/01/2019 - 5:48am

any topic I don’t fully understand I skim read twice first then read it properly the third time, to reduce stress. But everyone is different.

good luck. 

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Fri, 11/01/2019 - 8:45am

And I did that. I read it like that, then let it marinate in my head for a day or two before coming back to it. Didn't help. LOL

The homework was a draft and now we have comments we have to incorporate to get the final grade. I didn't do as bad as I thought I had but I am out of my element in this one and really not sure how to update two of the sections even with the teacher's commentary.

I'm working on it today (taking PTO days through the rest of the year here and there to use it up) and am going to just call it done when I have at least attempted to address the issues. Currently I'm getting a B on it so I'm good with that even if I get no points on the update.

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Submitted by Chmmy on Fri, 11/01/2019 - 8:20am

Breathe. It's ok.

All of these problems will blow over. Im not minimizing your problems or feelings or stress but look for the light at the end of the tunnel.

My son has had moderate to severe eczema most if his life and stress definitely flares it up. 

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Fri, 11/01/2019 - 8:54am

And I didn't realize it until XH said something the other day but he had really sensitive skin when he was younger. My dad has bad eczema, I get every skin related disease, DS already has some allergies, so none of this is surprising. I'm hoping it's just stress and not an bigger disease that is now gonna be with him for a long time because it triggered from stress.

At least the homework will be done today. DS is calling me later and we are going to discuss options (he seemed to like the online class idea I sent via text). The work thing is still weird, I'm watching someone in the office more closely now based on some comments from the surprise-fire, and he's right about a few things. 

So lights at the ends of the tunnels (multiple tunnels):

homework will be done today and the class is over in another three weeks

DS has to the end of the semester then something will have changed, so that's closer to Xmas

work is the longer tunnel, but given my side-job and where we are at financially with kids and work if I need to quit or also get fired, things will be fine (though XH is losing his job and I'm worried about that since his funds for DSs college apparently are not in a 529 but some other fund he can access without penalty so I'm hoping that he doesn't drain that account and DS has to scramble again but due to funds)