Child Support Vent
So, BM decided to tell DH he should use his child support money that he receives from her to pay for HER visitation and then she'll pay him back (which she never does...she still owes 250 on medical bills...she actually thinks were stupid enough to pay $1000 and wait for her to pay us). Obviously BM blows her money on herself and now can't afford to book tickets for the next visitation period. DH told her that it's her responsibility to pay and quoted the CO. He will pay her back his half once they are booked as she has to send an itinerary. BM freaked and told DH that the CS money is her money that she works for and pays to CSS and therefore he has to use it for what SHE tells him to. DH replied calmly with "child support is used to SUPPORT the child with basic needs, not payments that are YOUR responsibility to make." The nerve of this woman lol...
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She also said that she called
She also said that she called CS and they said that it's fair for him to use that money. We called CSS to confirm this and the person we spoke to said she never called lol.
Hahaha! Like they would say
Hahaha! Like they would say that. What an idiot.
Ikr! Even if they did the CS
Ikr! Even if they did the CS rep my DH spoke to was like that would totally be incorrect lol
I can't believe court even
I can't believe court even made a woman pay CS! What is it, $25 a month or something ridiculous?
Haha close 200...should have
Haha close 200...should have been more because we have the children full time, but supposedly she can't afford it (we just found out she has a side business so clearly she can).
How funny. As if her measly
How funny. As if her measly cs would pay for holiday airfare anyway.
Isn't it sexy when your man handles his business with his baggage? You should reward him *ahem* appropriately.
Right? She honestly thinks we
Right? She honestly thinks we put it in an account just waiting for her to tell us what to do with it. Not like we have clothes, food, school supplies, and a roof over the kids' head to pay for...but oh wait...she wouldn't know that cause she never financially supported her kids.
Also oh yes it is! Its wonderful when DH reminds the trash of where it belongs. Haha! ;)
Gotta love the entitlement BM
Gotta love the entitlement BM has that she feels she can tell your H how to spend the CS, meanwhile she blows all her money on herself and can't afford to purchase tickets for visitation. This is not your H's problem and I'd ignore messages like this. It's not worth entertaining and she needs to get it together ASAP or she won't see the kids.
Absolutely agree!! DH just
Absolutely agree!! DH just ignored after she lied about calling CSS.
Wow you get CS from a BM, it
Wow you get CS from a BM, it's like a unicorn I'm not sure if I believe it's real, lol.
I'm not gonna lie I was
I'm not gonna lie I was shocked when he got it granted *lol* .
How much does bm pay dad?
How much does bm pay dad? 10bucks a week?
Funny she told you she called cs office. I am surprised she didnt tell you that her lawyer told her, it was fair that YOU used cs for her.
LOL that would not surprise
LOL that would not surprise me. She always pulls out these bogus claims.
She knew she had to save up since the beginning of the year. So now she can deal with the consequences of her poor choices. *unknw*
Could not agree with you more
Could not agree with you more. However did you find that Sperm Clan took advantage of your generosity when you paid, and continued to use the "poor" excuse so that they wouldn't pay? I feel BM would definitely take advantage of this. And these tickets are quite costly since they're international. Did they ever pay you back?
She could always skip her
She could always skip her next payment and then see what happenes....I mean if she gets to decide how the money is spent then why send it at all? Some people are dumb...they think that no-one will see through their BS.
She really is! Shes also a
She really is! Shes also a narcissist and control freak. This is her way of trying to gain some control but it's not working. Lol
Update: So BM is demanding
Update: So BM is demanding that she needs her other half (the money from child support paid to DH) in order for her to get the tickets to fly the kids out to her for her visitation. She has now reached the level where she is also demanding DH to send all the receipts in order to make sure that what hes spent on the kids = what shes paid in CS. I'm totally LMFAO right now at this woman. What a poor excuse for a human. Shall we send her our mortgage payments? The medical bills she still owes us? The glasses WE paid for? The groceries we buy? All the clothes and shoes we had to buy cause she KEPT THEM ALL? School supplies? Where do I end...*lol*
You're advice is always so
You're advice is always so welcome. Thanks Rags! I hope my SKs will be as smart as yours is. I'm kind of losing hope with SD9. No matter how much we show her the facts she still takes BMs side for everything and falls for her pitty, manipulative games. She confessed that BM asked her to report back, after being caught eavesdropping...so she's out of the circle of trust. SD7 also told us that SD9 talks about our life to her mom and basically told her blatant lies. We feel so betrayed and have made it very clear to her that we will not have certain conversations in front of her because she cannot keep her mouth shut and honour our privacy.
I hope your H is not
I hope your H is not entertaining her nonsense. If she doesn't have the money to fly the kids out to her for her visitation, that's her problem. She should have planned for this ahead of time instead of pulling this last minute bullsh!t that should not be given any attention. He doesn't owe her any receipts or proof as to what he spends the money on for the kids. They are taken cared of and that's all she needs to know, all that other stuff she's saying is just back ground noise.
Absolutely not...he ignored
Absolutely not...he ignored her shenanigans lol at this point we're just rolling at the entertainment she's providing.
However, out of curiosity, we just totalled up what we pay in daycare costs for the kids and it surpassed, just in 3 months, what she has paid us since June. LOL so I told DH she should keep her mouth shut before she gets slapped with a higher CS payment.