I've been a sm for 7 years the youngest youngest sd since she was 2. I looked  them in as my own and that's the attitude I had.  Well that went down hill very fast. BM made sure I wasn't and told kids that I was nothing to them and it was only about her and their dad. Fast forward to today I gave up in every way. I get along with sd 14 quiet well but not the youngest.  She will stair at me and if I say anything will try to bypass me when dad comes around and the moment I don't see she's their or following him around like a lost puppy. If she can she will hang on him. I put a stop to it year's before I don't feel a child she have to be on a parents side every minute.  Alot has happened in the past few months with his ex saying some bs and so on. Just to much to write. But I see now sd 9 has gone back to old behaviors. I can't take it. I wont and are withdrawing from my own life here at home. In the past I've told my husband how I feel and he agreed but it seems when I'm home we both agree???  but he must be acting a different way when I'm not around. I feel awful having feelings the way I do but it it what it is. What do I do if I had more money I would keep my self very busy outside the home. That's just not a option at this time. I've tried staying in my room then he gets mad. My kids are older but still dont feel that's fair to my 17yo. I've even talked about living seperate.  Obviously his daughter doesn't want me or my kids involved  and at this point neither do I. I want to do the right thing but what it that. If I get more time then maybe later I can sit and write out the whole story or blog it?

Thanks for any help

Tryingtosurvivemom