BM wants to "band together" ??

Yesterday they closed schools down in my area. Immediately after the announcement I received a group text message from BM to myself, DH, FIL & MIL. It went something like this:

"Hey, schools are closed now, this is getting really scary and we need to make a plan. I think we should all band together so we can all share resources in case these people get crazy." She went on to imply that by "band together" she meant that all of us should start planning to move in with my MIL & FIL (because they have the largest home and property).

I didn't respond, I have 0 words for her.

MIL was confused by her text and her response was basically "What are you talking about?"

FIL's response was that he's not worried, definitely no need to all move in together. (Uh, you think?!)

DH responded to FIL by saying "same"..

BM then slowed her role (once she started feeling stupid) and said she agreed, she just was thinking it'd be nice for us to all be together so in case there was a mass freak-out she will know where SS is. (Yeah, I'm sure that was her thinking.)

First of all, the only person I see going crazy here is her. Second of all, if it did get to the point that we were forced to shack up with my MIL & FIL, what in the world makes her think she'd be invited?! Why is she not understanding that she is no longer a part of DH's family? I'm trying to be reasonable and let it go, but I can't help but see this as just another one of her poorly planned attempts to push her way back in.

Should I be completely offended here or am I overreacting?

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She's a loon.

Very strange that she thinks

Very strange that she thinks she would be moving in with your husband's parents... Very strange.

Does she think it is the end of the world?

From everything she was

From everything she was saying, she surely is talking like it's the end of the world, yes. Even if it was, she has her own husband and family...

I guess she likes MIL house

I guess she likes MIL house better... so she is planing on bringing her new husband too? And his parents? Inquiring minds on how many people ahe thinks can fit in their house...lol!

Dup

Oh lord...

She is absolutely crazy and delusional

Yeah she's a loca!!

Yeah she's a loca!

BioHo tried that and my DH

BioHo tried that and my DH slammed that proverbial door shut so hard and fast!

I heard something

I heard something that started about like that this weekend, except it was regarding grandskid- " Hey daycare/school is cancelled for next week-we need to all come up with a plan" the de-coded version was: we dont want/cant take of our child, therefore the responsibility falls on the grandparents.............right, ok, our responsibility, not yours.ok. Whatever. (Wont go into detail, as I already blogged about this yesterday)

"Actually BM, it would be

"Actually BM, it would be safer for all of us to keep a distance. If we all come together and one of us gets sick, then we all get sick. That puts MIL and FIL at risk, and it means that no one will be able to care for SS since all of his caregivers will be sick at one. Separate locations limits exposure, and that keeps us all safe."

That's if you want to make her feel like a bigger idiot. Otherwise, I think this has been effectively handled.

Bwahahah

Sorry, I just can't stop laughing at her craziness.

FFS

FFS, this is not the zombie apocalypse. If the undead were roaming Main Street with tendons in their teeth then anyone who still had a pulse and a Snickers bar to spare would be a candidate for an alliance. Last I checked that was not the case. I do, however, stay off of Facebook and limit my FOX viewing to only what I can stand before screaming and throwing things at the tv. So some people may be getting more colorful information than what is being broadcast on CNN.

Same. She's freaking out

Same.
She's freaking out because she thinks people will go crazy and "act on their emotions"...

Feels like she's definitely jumping the gun in the whole zombie apocalypse and trying to ally up with my DH's family before her own. Another pathetic attempt to grasp onto him and still feel apart of the family. When will she give up?!

Block her. You don't need to

Block her. You don't need to be part of that nonsense. She'll never know you blocked her.

Lol!

I literally laughed out loud. I'm glad your MIL and FIL did not invite her to stay. My MIL would call DH and tell him he should let BM move in, which would never happen. If her house burns down, Skids could maybe move in, but she'd be out of luck.

Does your BM have her own family? I ask because in my case, BM has her own family, but she never asks them for assistance, only DH's. MIL gave BM $5000 four years after the divorce because she "needed it" even though she makes six figures. She also only ever asks DH's family to take Skids when she wants to go away and DH can't take them. She had to ask her family once and she acted as if he own mother should be venerated to the ends of the earth for helping out. She tried to convince DH he should be grateful that her mother helped, even though it wasn't DH's weekend, so it wasn't his responsibility to find care for Skids.

Yes, she has her own family

Yes, she has her own family and her husband has his own family. At this point, why not ask her husbands ex-wife to band together? It'd be just as out there and ridiculous!

The problem is that she wants to still be a part of it all and close to DH, even if it means sharing a roof with me. She thinks she can take him from me if given the chance. A couple of years ago she went as far as to tell my MIL that one day her and my DH will be back together. (Puke!) Luckily MIL doesn't care for her much and is only ever cordial with her. FIL is a different story. He talks about how he has so much respect for her, he will even sit next to her at skids functions, etc. MIL & I believe that in reality he just likes the flirtatious attention he gets from her and that's why he's all about her. That's the kind of BM I have, one who will flirt with anything male -- including my almost 70 year old FIL!!