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Chmmy's picture

Submitted by Chmmy on Mon, 03/30/2020 - 9:54am

DH has full custody of the kids SDs 20 & 17 almost never see their mom. SSs 13 & 11 see her every other weekend unless something comes up. She looks for any excuse to ditch them as well as they really dont care to go there. 

DH has always has to be the favorite. When they lived with BM he ran over there everyday  to outshine  BM...and trust me I hate the bitch, shes a bad person as well as shitty mom so Im not sticking up for her at all.

A while back she gave the kids sandwiches on Brioche buns and SS13 mentioned liking it. Guess what kind of bread came in to our house? Another weekend she made onion rings that the kids liked so the first thing he made in our new air fryer(that I bought) onion rings. We've never had onion rings that I remember. The onion rings were frozen from a bag so the kids said they weren't as good as BMs homemade ones, so guess what DH made last night...homemade onion rings. Cant he let the kids enjoy something with their mom without competing? Fml. Still wish I would have isolated elsewhere. My parents or my son would have loved having me.

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Survivingstephell's picture

Submitted by Survivingstephell on Mon, 03/30/2020 - 11:36am

"Hey SS, are these better than your mom's?  Go on tell me truth.   Its nice she good at something, isn't it DH?  "

Petty MF would wear my patience down quick in times like this.  

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Submitted by strugglingSM on Mon, 03/30/2020 - 1:01pm

BM does this in our case. Two years ago, SS called and asked DH what we were doing for SS's birthday. DH told him, "we're going out for sushi." On the day of pick-up, BM left work early and got sushi take-out for both SSs at 3:30pm. BM doesn't eat sushi. 

DH told SSs we were thinking about getting dog...weeks later, BM buys a dog, even though she is not a dog person. 

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Mon, 03/30/2020 - 2:52pm

I'm not sure why but it stopped once BM won the HS decision. BM won I guess the big competition she needed to win. DH lost the big competition he thought he would win and was butt hurt.

Before that it was totally tit for tat. Calling dibs on all sorts of things. Getting the kids things or taking them places before the other one could, or to an even better version than the first parent to do it/buy it/go there.

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 03/30/2020 - 3:36pm

DH used to do this to an extent. I hated it because I thought it was ridiculous to care that much about BM still that he needed to show her up or be better than her. It just shouldnt factor in at all.

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Mon, 03/30/2020 - 6:40pm

Yep. Definetely competing. We live with this except it is BM who can't let anyone have any kind of special moment or thing with SS. I got SS a volleyball set for Christmas and never got around to setting it up until schools were cancelled. I put it up Monday and he played with me and Dh throughout the week. At exchange, he told BM  how much he loved playing and before she could get back to her house with SS, she had called her boyfriend to pick up a set on his way home from shopping. They played all weekend. This is just the most recent episode of "Love ME More" I have years and years of examples. Anything we do with SS that he loves or is excited enough to tell her about, she has to run out and get it, do it or redo the experience. It's one of the most irritating things I find about Steplife.