So yesterday was SS17s birthday. He turned 17 yesterday. He had to work 2-8 so we had cake for him when he got out of work. SOs parents came over (they live next door) and I was telling SOs mom about the cabin I booked for vacation in august. 
 

We were originally suppose to go on a cruise but clearly with Covid that didn't happen. So instead we decided a cabin on a lake/river would be fun. So the cabin is 6 hour drive away without stopping so probably take us 7ish to get there. We are leaving on a Monday returning on Friday. So that really only gives us 3 full days there. So I called the place we booked to see if we can extended one day. They put me on a waiting list because they do weddings and the cabins book up on the weekends. 
 

So I was telling SOs mom the dates and I mention that I called to extend the day but everything was booked. SS17 is about to walk upstairs at this point, hears me say that, and goes YOU CANT CHANGE THE DATES I ALREADY TOLD WORK THOSE ARE THE DAYS I NEED OFF. I paused, finished my sentences to SOs mom and said it's a month away I'm sure you can get it off. 
 

Nothing was said about it last night. 
 

This morning, SO says should we try and stay somewhere else there for the extra night. I said well don't you have to check with SS17 first. I said that pissed me off when he said that. Now, I understand that the kid wants to feel important and cares about his job and stuff but it was the way it came across. It was rude and him pretty much telling me that I can't  change the dates. I was extending it ONE day. 
 

Now SO is all moody because everything that SS17 does annoys me (which is true) and how that "one" thing he said I took negatively. Blah blah BS. 
 

SS17 and I have a history of not getting along. He has called me every name in the book, been rude, disrespectful countless times, has no relationship with his siblings pretty much because of who he is but yet, it's me. After years of pretty much verbal abuse from SS17 SO still has excuses and he just doesn't see it. Never will. I have disengaged A LOT from him in the last year. Still don't like him though, as I feel, don't have too. 
 

Now I'm a hypocrite because I do "the same thing" as SS17 does apparently. SO says so every time you've snapped at me blah blah. DIFFERENT DUDE!! I say that I'm just suppose to forget about the verbal abuse he has put us ALL through and be ok with it! I go every time he says something like that to me you rarely address it. SO goes in with the whole I handle things differently and I always "go back in time" "can't let go" BS. What's funny is SS15 (who is 15 going on 30) tells SO they exact same stuff about SS17 but that's ok. UGH!