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Submitted by ICanMakeIt on Fri, 08/14/2020 - 1:04pm

SS has a birthday next month - 16. 

Now I'm unsure if for boys 16 is as big a deal as for girls, but I feel like probably so.

What do you get a child that has everything? Already got a vehicle, has all the games, has plenty of cash (also I hate giving cash seems thoughtless but I know as a kid we all liked it). 

My SS is not "into" anything. Like seriously ....other than Youtube and his games (which he has all of including newest this Summer). 

We are long distance so DH and I were talking about it last night. We had previously been doing experiences vs. gifts because it seemed like a winner. Thanks to Covid, this isn't really possible. 

DH is no help, so I thought I'd reach out to you ladies.

I vascilate between not caring (previous blogs from Summer when SS "doesn't love me") and caring a lot because its a "milestone" birthday.

Any suggestions would be awesome. 

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Submitted by Cover1W on Fri, 08/14/2020 - 1:12pm

SD14 doesn't care about anything and doesn't want anything, or never asks for anything. So I always just give her a card and some cash. OSD who is PAS'd does not ever receive anything from me.

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Submitted by JRI on Fri, 08/14/2020 - 1:34pm

I always give cash now.  I dont see it as thoughtless, i see it as giving freedom.  Nowadays, people have so much, and have specific desires that they can fulfill via online shopping.  If i buy something, its sure to be not exactly what they want.  Have you asked him what he wants?  If hes evasive, I'd send cash or a gift card.  Include a card with a handwritten expressive note.

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Submitted by ICanMakeIt on Fri, 08/14/2020 - 1:37pm

What is an appropriate amount for this "milestone" birthday? It would be from DH and I.

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Submitted by Winterglow on Fri, 08/14/2020 - 2:44pm

My mother once gave my brother a tiny box containing a long leather thong with a  nail sized circle of fur in the middle. On the box was written, "for the man who has everything". It was a bellybutton warmer.... 

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Submitted by Survivingstephell on Fri, 08/14/2020 - 3:23pm

One of those life skill books that are popular for teens. How to do stuff that they should have learned growing up. 

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Fri, 08/14/2020 - 3:25pm

gas cards at that age. They can drive and are mobile but do not like to spend money on gas. 

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Fri, 08/14/2020 - 3:26pm

gifts at that age was a new curfew as of his birthday. Not much of a gift in 2020.

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Submitted by advice.only2 on Fri, 08/14/2020 - 3:30pm

I agree gas cards, or maybe pay his first 3 months insurance is he has to pay it himself. Detailing for his car. A year subscription for road side assistance.

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Submitted by tog redux on Fri, 08/14/2020 - 3:32pm

Cash. I'm always the favorite aunt at Christmas because I give them money. It's what they want, and it doesn't seem thoughtless to them, it seems awesome. Adults are the only ones who think it's thoughtless. 
 

I'm so happy my nieces and nephews are young adults and want cash. Makes life so much easier. 
 

SS20, I don't buy anything for. He can't be assed to wish his father a happy anything, he's not getting squat from me. DH does buy him gifts. 

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Submitted by MissK03 on Fri, 08/14/2020 - 4:23pm

I'd say cash too. Everyone likes cash. I don't think it's thoughtless either. The gas cards are a good idea too.