Dear Valued Users,
It's with a heavy heart that we announce the permanent closure of StepTalk.org on August 31st, 2025.
This decision wasn't an easy one. For over twenty years, StepTalk has been a source of support for stepparents around the world! However, over the years, the costs associated with maintaining and upgrading the site to remain secure, meet current standards and maintain availability have become unsustainable.
We are incredibly grateful for your support, contributions and the community you've helped us build. Your engagement has made StepTalk.org a special place and we cherish the memories and connections made here.
We would especially like to thank Aniki for volunteering to be a moderator and for caring so much.
Thank you for being a part of our journey and we wish you all the best.
Sincerely,
Dawn and The StepTalk Team
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He woke up this morning and
He woke up this morning and hasn’t said anything about it .
Yes . I do need to stand up
Yes . I do need to stand up for myself . Her father did not Want her playing sports during the pandemic but we found pictures of her online playing . She just does whatever she wants .
Ping pong
My SD bounced back and forth, too. Whenever one of the parents got on her case, she would move. It teaches them that they don't have to face the consequences of their actions.
The predictable course of events is: the child tells the non-custodial parent ( dad) how mean mom is. Implies mom is exhibiting the same bad behavior dad already experienced prior to the divorce. Unreasonable, crazy, volatile. Dad feels pity and, secretly, vindication, also feels like a savior. The child moves in. A honeymoon period occurs. The child goes back to the behavior that enraged mom. Dad tries to correct the child but ( see above, repeat).
Boomerang Child
SD21 Feral Forger - I called her the "Boomerang Child" because of this EXACT behavior. Shes tried boomeranging a few times back in, but after she moved out at 18, basically ghosted us and kept her filth in the room, its a no-go zone. Its my room with all my stuff in it.
That being said, yes, this definitely taught the lesson that there is no reason to try to be a civilised human, that treats people with respect, because, why? The mother, Toxic Troll is the same.
Make a stand
TEll your DH no, this is not happening, and give him repercussions.
Difficult!
Since I don't yet have experience with this, all I can say is how difficult that sounds and I'm sorry you have to go through this. You deserve better communication than that. I know there a lot of things similar to this that my husband and i couldn't have worked through in our new marriage without our trusted friend/counselor. I hope that somehow you guys will be able to talk it through.
No. Why is a 15 y/o coming
No. Why is a 15 y/o coming and going wherever she pleases? There is a bigger problem here. What does the CO say?
You have to put your foot
You have to put your foot down and set some limits for your own sanity and demand a conversation about this whole thing. You have a right to express your concerns.
I'm so sorry . They always
I'm so sorry . They always come back.