An update to my blog from a week ago (linked below):

https://www.steptalk.org/blog/stepultimate/freedom-272617

On Valentine's day (Monday this week), my attorney emailed STBXH stating all communication should be via my attorney. STBXH tried saying that was unnecessary but my attorney politely but firmly shut that down. 

SO. AWESOME.

I finished all the paperwork this week & attorney sent me full version to review & sign. It's so freeing & a little scary to have the truth of my financial situ all in one place - knowing how jealous & entitled STBX feels, and how he might drag this out to try to juice me. Even though he's BROKE & cannot afford his own attorney.

I filed in the Fall, and between December 31 & now, my retirement account has increased by $10k. I also got a huge raise & a big bonus check after STBX moved out. Reading the Community Property guidelines on my state's court website, it sounds like STBXH is not entitled to that since he moved out (into an apartment he rented in the Fall, after he was served - of course he has xSS22 living there) and filed his response later that same month. 

So things are looking up and I cannot even tell you how nice it is having STBXH blocked on my phone & on notice from my attorney to leave me alone!!!