So, as mentioned last, SD came and asked DH to do another DNA test, probably hoping (all of us) the 1st one was wrong.  It came back the same as the other one, DH isn't her bio dad.  It's like being crushed all over again.  Overall SD seems to be handling well all things considered.  She is still at MIL's- however her plan is on track to move out.

MIL goes through days she's a beaotch and others pretends nothing is wrong.  Lately SD said that I am her target, since we haven't returned the room divider yet, so she has turned her rage at me (not knowing at ALL, just assuming)...so I told SD, better me than you girl, I'm not living w/her nor talk to or see her, so let her rant at me, it'll keep the heat of you!

DH has been no contact with MIL- though this week he will have to if he wants to get the title of car signed over to him, and return the room divider.  He's also debating on whether to get a generic bday card, and giving it to her that he 'acknowledges it's her bday' but with nothing inside, and no 'mom, happy bday'- he thinks it will sting more, I said she doesn't deserve even that, don't send anything at all.  I'm leaving that to him.

My health issues are being managed with multiple Dr appts and meds, feeling quite depressed again about it all but staying on top of things best I can.  I have extreme exhaustion and brain fog, making life quite difficult.

SD inquired if we could watch little guy this Sat night, as it's baby daddy bday and he wants to go out w/friends....I have to find a nice way to say no....I don't think we can handle overnights at this point w/my health issues, though a few hours at a time are just fine. We also agree we dont' want to get in the habit of overnights, since these two have a baby and feel that they should still have their old young lives back and party when they want.  We aren't those kind of grandparents lol.  I don't mind babysitting during the day, or even at night and he's picked up, but IMO this baby should NOT be doing overnights at 9  months old!  Not unless it's an emergency, etc.  

I feel that if he were older, mobile, talking, sure...a special overnight at grandparents is fine, but a baby that wakes up still in middle of the night sometimes?  Yeah...nope.  I struggle too much with sleep issues and other that a full 18hr stay is really just too much.

Another issue, my female dog is NOT friendly with him, she moves away, barks if he stares at her or approaches, so she gives warnings and removes herself, but I do not trust her w/him.  Now, the male dog? OMG, he LOVES the little guy, follows him everywhere, and whines horribly when he leaves, and spends the next couple hours looking for him ha!   

I adore the grandson, just trying to 'establish' boundaries and what kind of grandparents we want to be, especially given he is so young.