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Submitted by Stepgram on Thu, 08/17/2023 - 6:55pm

I haven't written in a while as Sd and her family moved to another continent last year. It only lasted a few months before they decided to pick up again and return home. 
 

Sd now is trying again to off load her kid on someone else. This time it is our (dh and I) dd which is her half- sibling.  
 

Sd tried to convince dd to join her and her husband on a trip to the south for 2 weeks.  They wanted her to look after their son during the day and then in the evening dd could go out and explore the sights - on her own.  Dd 19 years old. 

Fortunately dd is pretty smart and started asking questions. Although Sd said that she and her husband would be remote working, they were vague about where they exactly would physically be  and when the day would begin and end for Dd.  So dd could have been left alone all day with their kid  

Dd found the plans to be suspicious and felt that they were trying to manipulate her.  Dd  thought that is was a bit off that they would travel all that way just to work and she (dd) would only have a few hours in the evening to see or do anything.  Dd finally told them that it did not make sense for her to pay for a plane ticket and other expenses to babysit her nephew all day long in a foreign country when she could spend a couple of hours with him in town. In addition, dd observed that his behaviour is getting a bit out of hand as he has regressed and will bite, spit and hit others now.

 

Sd had to change her plans as her parents, stepparents or in-laws do not want to be saddled down doing childcare.   Sd and her husband moan about having to look after their son but they signed up to be parents so they need to accept the responsible and be parents to their child. 

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JRI's picture

Submitted by JRI on Thu, 08/17/2023 - 7:31pm

You're making me cry for poor SD.  Lol.

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Submitted by Rags on Thu, 08/17/2023 - 7:54pm

My Brother and his DW would drop their kids on my parents frequently.  Mom would call us and ask for us to bring SS over so she could have all 4 of her GKs.  That we would do but only after making sure mom was actually good with it.

I for one find the "it takes a village" whine fest to be full of crap. You can't raise it and feed it... don't breed it. Period. Dot.

You breed it, you take care of of it.  Whether it is a whoops or planned.  Your spawn, you take care of it.  Or, put it up for adoption and don't dump your cry whine victim fest on anyone else. regardless of which option you choose.

I am feeling particularly caring today.

Dirol

I applaid your DD for calling her idiot half sister and BIL on their manipulative crap.  I applaud the rest of their victim pool for holding the breeders accountable for their choices and not taking the spitting, hitting toxic spawn.

Clapping

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Submitted by Lillywy00 on Sat, 08/19/2023 - 10:54am

Typical lazy delusional parents who don't mind breeding but when responsibility hits they could give 2 f8cks and try to get someone else to do their job 

I find it laughable she tried to con your daughter into free labor AND make her pay for the flights/accomodations......Who tf does that? 

Yeah - pay your way to come babysit my unruly kid/have no time for youself/and be fleeced into hella responsibility.

Didn't even bother to attempt to make it worth her while.

Um NO!!! She's very wise to decline.

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Submitted by grannyd on Sat, 08/19/2023 - 4:26pm

Exactly, Lilly,

I wonder about folks like Stepgram's SD; are they so deluded that they fail to realize that they're users in the extreme or do they truly believe that such an outrageous offer would benefit anyone but themselves? Talk about taking entitlement to new heights!

Well done, Stepgram, for raising a young woman who is not easily conned. Clapping

 

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Submitted by Stepgram on Mon, 08/21/2023 - 10:14pm

SD actually thought that it was a great arrangement. She seems to think that her son is the royal crown prince and we should all be falling over ourselves to spend alone time with him.  
 

Another note is that they are so lazy in toilet training him that he still needs to wear pull-ups. He is to start school in the fall so they need to get with the program asap.  
 

The last time they were at our home, his pull up was so sopping wet that he left a pee trail as he ran in the living room. I kept my mouth shut and let DH handle it. He was so pissed and told her off and got his son-on-law to give the kid a bath. Then he got SD to disinfect the floor.  He has not invited them over ever since that incident. 

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Submitted by Winterglow on Sat, 08/19/2023 - 4:53pm

This I just don't understand. I had twins at 42 and it never occurred to me to ask for help. We were both able bodied adults and having children wasn't exactly debilitating. We worked around our respective schedules. It wasn't always easy but they were OURS! OTOH, nobody was throwing themselves at us to help either LOL.

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Submitted by Stepgram on Mon, 08/21/2023 - 9:59pm

Sd and her husband are not youngsters. They are in their late 30's. They just want to have their cake and eat it.  They decided they wanted a kid but did not want give up their lifestyle of travelling and having fun. 

Winterglow, you had twins and made the decision to prioritize your children above all else.  Which is what most reasonable parents do. 
 

Biomom was the same with Sd and her other kids so sd comes by it honestly I suppose. 

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Submitted by grannyd on Sat, 08/19/2023 - 7:06pm

Winterglow, you are one of the sanest, most pragmatic members on StepTalk. As overwhelming as ' twins at 42' appears to this oldster, I'm not surprised that you were able to cope without expecting others to pitch in. Good on ya'!