Turn! turn! turn!
A time to have weddings, apparently. (referencing the Byrds song)
This weekend I am preparing for stomach-turning stress.
Husbands nephew is getting married to a very sweet gal Ive spoken to a few times.
It is taking place in his sisters backyard - nephews mothers backyard. Its huge and will be HOT. Its on Saturday - boo Ill be missing a popular festival Ive attended the past 15 plus years both days without fail.
Its the same backyard husband and toxic troll were married in, and the same month also. I dont care enough to ask for the date. I wonder if it will be brought up? Probably, but not to me. Of course Husband will be bringing SD17 Powersulk over to attend, and hopefully will find out if SD24 Feral Forger will attend. Or not. She is still blocked on phone and social media, and we are still no contact.
Fun. I used to love weddings and the last few have been "meh". Not much joy in them for me. I never got a real wedding, just problems. No bachlorette thing, no wedding with all my friends and family, nor a honeymoon. We eloped.
Im sure it will be fine. I know it will be MUCH more fun than the last one...Feral Forger with her attitude didnt really bother me.
I guess my mood is dampened knowing it was the wedding ceremony place of Toxic Troll who seems to have gotten much of what I would have loved to have had - a wedding, children, and now living the Beach Life where the homes are mostly million dollar price tags and rentals are high.
Im going to self-sooth now over some green tea. Ill work out my frustration in the gymn. Happy weekend all!
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I'm thinking the chances are
I'm thinking the chances are 100% that your DH's prior wedding will be brought up by someone. We hosted a 70th birthday party for MIL (conveniently scheduled by DH two days after we returned from our honeymoon, but that's a different story). He invited many family friends and many asked about BM...one even asked me how BM was (as if I would know). I don't even know if these people knew who I was and none of them were super close to BM, but they could not stop asking about her. DH and I have been married for 7 years and I'm still not sure some of these people know who I am. BM treated DH like crap, even when they were married, but especially after the divorce. DH was raised in a family that pretends thinks are rosy and perfect no matter what, so they pretend that she didn't and act like she's a wonderful person.
Time to get "exposed " to
Time to get "exposed " to Covid.
Hugs. I understand how
Hugs. I understand how frustrating it is. I look at Little Idiot and think "Really? Paid for college and you just squander it!" Don't forget though... Toxic Troll also got a divorce and two mentally-unstable, horrid daughters (whom I'm sure cause her daily drama). Yes she's living at the beach but on the generosity of hard-working taxpayers. She's a charity case at best and a leech on society at worse.
I'm always surprised
Clove, I'm always surprised when I feel the envy you have of Toxic Troll. You say she's had the wedding, children and beach life. Yes, she had the wedding but did she have a lasting marriage? I sometimes envy people who had a beautiful wedding but most of those don't have a 49-year marriage like I do. Yes, she had the children, that's a legitimate thing. But you know those kids, what if it weren't TT's influence that made them like they are, what if they were going to be like that anyway? I've tried to mold my own bios and let me tell you, nature is stronger than I am.
Yes, she's living on a beach but from what you say, it's such a dump, the cable guy wouldn't go in. I'm seeing a maybe not very bright, dysfunctional woman who has trouble in all her relationships, the very opposite of you, Clove.
Yeah, a "beach house in
Yeah, a "beach house in paradise" that was so gross that even the cable guy wouldn't go in! As part of my job I go into people's homes. You become desensitized to a lot. If they wouldn't go in, it's disgusting. A health hazard. Not a paradise.
On a Jelly Role
I guess weddings have become triggering for me, because the last one things went so badly.
Ive tried not to be jealous, but there you have it. Normally Im not a jealous person, but my emotions are high because, weddings. New beginnings, hope for the future. It makes me look back and wonder what was I really thinking? What were MY hopes for our future? And then I start spiraling down in the stark reality of all the dark things that happened.
Like the day of our elopement ceremony, husband getting nasty texts from toxic troll, "hope third times the charm for you!" And "our girls are crying and so sad, how could you do that to them?" Just on and on. Luckily our location had zero cell service.
And no money for anything.
However the next year we did buy our house. I am just going to shine out, blissed out on the wedding love. SD17 PS CPS, texted husband that sD24 Feral Forger wants to go and shes going with a cousin, and that "shes afraid".
so, I told husband that if feral forger sais anything nasty to me or about me, or anything, he needs to be by my side and also step up as a parent. He didnt like that too much, but so what.
How did she even get that
How did she even get that "free of rent" beach house? Would she eventually end up on the beach without the house?
Clove, she had gotten nothing of what you've dreamed of and of what you deserve. She's divorced and without a soulmate, she also got two screwed up children. She's a leech good for nothing to our society.
Go to that wedding and smile and shine. Hugs.
I could not do it
I could not go to a wedding place where my So got married to his ex
Luckily it looks different
i/ts much much nicer with grass, and flowers. And new energy of family gatherings also taking place there.
Im going to go, and shine out happily. Ive decided that I will just focus on the love energy of the couple.
Sure... TT has all of that.... and more....
Toxic Troll who seems to have gotten much of what I would have loved to have had - a wedding, children, and now living the Beach Life...
Now for the more... she is a welfare queen who has extorted money from the tax payers, ruined her own life, and the life of the children you covet that she has.
You... are a person of character, quality, and standing in life rather than a useless POS waste of skin.
Go with that in mind to the repeat of the low class crap ceremony that TT formulated. Armoring yourself with your power words.
Then.... think of who YOU are and what YOU have accomplished. while you wrinkle your nose at the stench that TT has fostered in the gene pool and planet.
She has nothing that you need to envy. She.... knows full well that she is a POS, and you... are living the life SHE covets. Financial security, a professional career and income, and.... a future of opportunity and enjoyable adventure.
You will have those things... she ... never will.
You ROCK CLove. Never forget that.
My dad made a comment about my DW and I eloping. Our wedding cost $500 including the ceremony, flowers, my DW's dress, and our Reno casino hotel room, food, shows, etc...
My first wedding was a $35K-$50K social event of the season... in the late 80s. That wedding cost as much as $20K per year of marriage. My DW and I eloping has returned an amazing life of adventure, a love for the ages, and phenominal and incresing ROI at a cost of $17.25/yr... and dropping. We celebrated our 29th a few weeks ago.
As dad said...."The price of the wedding does not represent the quallity of the commitment."
Mom and dad eloped.... 61+ years ago. If I recall correctly, their wedding cost $35.
Be good to you dear lady.