We, Dh, Sd15 and I, attended a very large wedding together, deep in a sun-filled, oak studded valley.

SD22 Feral Forger was there with her two cousins she likes, ignoring her father, and myself of course, as expected, because hes just a "sperm donor" and I "took away her father".

But let me backtrack. I found out there was a wedding, and because Im not in the notification loop, it was a bit last minute. But we got time off for it. I texted SD15 in the morning, that I would be picking her up as DH was still doing a half day, and that she would be attending. She had knowledge of the wedding and when I asked she told me yes indeed Feral Forger would be there, and was pleasantly surprised that she would be going as well. Luckily she is on school break. Are you noticing a dysfunctional lack of communication trend yet?

Picking up SD15 was easy and trouble free. And then the stories come out. Feral Forger had plugged up the toilet at Toxic Trolls place and blame-shifted it onto Sd15. SD15 insisted she had not pooped or peed that much and had noticed a lot of tp previous to the plug. So, TT made her clean it and I got to hear the wonderful details of it and how she cried a lot during the whole business.

At the wedding, which took us 3 tries to find (again I am not in the notification loop and had to dig through some old texts to find it) the location, which was in a country-woodland location, we seated ourselves, and as the ceremony began, in trots Feral Forger and plops herself right in front of us. Her big head blocked our vision of the happy couple, and I could tell that Dh really was happy to see her. All she could say was "hi dad", and then ignored me of course the entire time.

I told him several times "you should go talk to her!". He tried a few times and she blew him off. Not even cordially. She was dancing and when we danced near, she danced off. I was making a  point. That I am not the reason she isnt having a  relationship with him. And if he wants to chase that, then have at it. And if she wants to treat us like dirt, well, she doesnt belong in my life. And there she was - proving my point. I told him that, and told him, she has ALWAYS treated me like sh!t and been mean to me - from shunning to outright calling me names while he sat back and let it happen. I did not hold back, friends. So now hes upset with me and my truth teling. And I am just upset having watched him try to chase her and watch him watching her. It made me sick to my stomach, truth be told. Oh and I did get a bitter-sounding "hi Clove" eventually. At least SD15 had fun talking to her cousins, battling over them with Freal Forger.

It was a beautiful wedding, however. Many happy returns to the couple, Dh's younger nephew, and his gorgous lovely lady, and best wishes to them for a bright future. They have no children from prior relationships and the way is clear to have their own family soon. Their union is fresh and full of the promise of many new wonderful memories. And my heart breaks for my crushed hopes for a happy future that will go unfulfilled...