My Mother Passed
Last week at age 89. She led a permanently depressed life mostly, IMO, due to being confined to the role the cult assigned to her. Absolutely nothing physically wrong with her no health issues nor disease . My younger sister, being an only child (well that's what it felt like as she was the golden child) has made a great deal of mourning posts on social media.
Of course she was always seen as the "loyal" child having not officially left the cult as I had. Even though she has no intentions of rejoining and was much more "sinful" in her life than I have been.
My mother and I never bonded... which I don't blame her for as her own mother did not bond with her and all her siblings were farmed out to relatives they did not know when her mother had to go to psychiatric institutions. Ironically my sister and I were farmed off to our paternal grandmother who did not care for us too much when Mom went into these places quite frequently.
My father at age 90, still clings to the tenets of the cult and as of yet, I do not know the time nor place of any memorial service 8 hours away. Because of the religious shunning I hear things only second hand. My sister has nothing to do with me out of a sheer feud; she is the purveyor of all information. She's probably relishing the control although she is probably one of the more irresponsible people on this earth.
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I'm sorry for your loss
You've lost not only your mom but any fantasy you ever had about her recovering and being the mom you wanted. I'm sorry
I'm the black sheep, too. Also known as living my own life
It's still sad about your mom.
My condolences.
My condolences.
Take care of you. Keep the toxic at a distance.
Condolences
So sorry. I fully understand being shunned and being the black sheep. Still does not make it easy. Sending you love.
I'm so very sorry. I know of
I'm so very sorry. I know of people in the cult too and it absolutely destroys lives... in so many ways. I think you are the white sheep in a family full of black sheep and I'm so sorry you never had the relationship you deserved with your mom. Focus on your son and all the people you love in your life. We can make our own families.
I'm so sorry!
I'm so sorry!
Damn, I'm sorry. That's a lot
Damn, I'm sorry. That's a lot. Whatever you do or don't do as far as the funeral is understandable.
So sorry
It's just never easy losing a parent.
I am in some very weird place with my siblings since one of our parents passed last week. I don't exactly know what is happening but something seems to be going on and I am the outsider which seems to make no sense since I am the one who drives to another state each and every time one of my parents got sick. My siblings couldn't be bothered showing up.
Hugs!