DH Birthday dilemma
So MIL texted me today asking if I was planning something for DH birthday which is on April 21st ( she knows I plan things super early ) I told her we were tossing around the idea of going out of town for food Friday and maybe returning Saturday but I was not sure because Easter is Sunday and I'm hosting something with my sister . Then she said that they wanted to surprise DH by getting SD to make a appearance. HUGE trigger for me since SD has not uttered a word to DH about her chaos she started the very last time she come, she does not text him back ( rarely she will text back and no calls) they have only been saying " I love you " nothing more . So I do not think it's a good idea at all, they don't fully know what is going on between DH , BM and SD . DH still has BM blocked. And I don't want them "begging" BM to let SD 15 come , I can hear it now " don't worry BM, SD will stay with us and no with DH " we don't need them begging BM for anything ! I didn't say anything even tho I wanted to and I was thinking maybe we should just go out of town but that would put pressure on me to hurry back Saturday and get everything ready for Easter dinner and the kids stuff.... I dunno why they have to meddle but it's beyond annoying
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Your MIL's lack of social
Your MIL's lack of social/situational awareness is either astounding, or she's faking it on purpose. You don't "surprise" people who are basically estranged by having one of them show up at the other's birthday. Geez. That's called "blindsiding", not "surprising."
She takes a blind eye to SD
She takes a blind eye to SD always!
they wanted to surprise DH by
they wanted to surprise DH by getting SD to make a appearance.
So, this is not something that SD necessarily wants to do, just something MIL wants to stick her nose into and orchestrate. No, thanks.
I mean, how awkward for both SD and your husband (and everybody watching). What is wrong with your MIL? Somehow, you need to politely tell her to stay in her lane. If she wants to help, she can have a conversation with her granddaughter about respect and how one should treat ones parents.
Yes, they did this exact
Yes, they did this exact thing on X MAS and it was so much drama all because they could not stay in their lane
Where do they want SD to make
Where do they want SD to make the surprise.. at your family easter dinner??? or at your getaway night? weird.
Exactly
Is she going to jump out of a cake or what?
We know there are SDs who
We know there are SDs who would jump out, scantily clad, and start humping anything immobile!
Who even knows. She asked if
Who even knows. She asked if I was planning something for DH birthday and that's when she mentioned the surprise and that's when I told her that we might go out of town and I also let her know we would be with my sister on Easter .
"That won't work for us."
"That won't work for us."
MIL needs to keep her nose out of it. Is MIL invited to the event you and your sister are co-hosting? If not, she's got a lot of nerve inviting herself and and SD. Even if she is, she's got a lot of damn nerve inviting SD without clearing it with you first. Where's my broom? I'll give her a solid smack on her meddling arse.
That won't work for us
Or if you want to be sure to offend her:
"Sorry, but it's a private affair".
She most certainly is not
She most certainly is not invited to Easter with my sister at my house but I'm sure when she hears from DH she will say how her feelings are hurt . I could careless , we don't have to spend every holiday with her and SIL . She always does stuff with SD with out clearing it with DH and it's really annoying
Stay away from MIL
She's doing what she wants with no consequences for herself. But making life difficult for you. I would not get involved with BM. If the CO has Easter as your holiday. Then expect SD without asking her. If CO said it's BM holiday. SD will be with BM.
Personally I would rather spend my holiday at McDonald with DH. Then get involved with this crazy family. O.K applebee they have a bar.
Ok now I'm just hungry
Ok now I'm just hungry
Easter weekend is BM weekend.
Easter weekend is BM weekend. But since she has not being coming for a while they prob don't even care because " SD hasn't been around in a while" it's very annoying . I'll settle for chilis at this point lol
MIL does not need to know the details of your weekend.
MIL does not need to know the details of your weekend. Just tell her you will be out of town, even if you won't be gone the whole weekend. If she wants to have a party for DH and invite SD, she can do so on another weekend.
Agreed!!
Agreed!!