So pissed off >:{
Ok so today is my day off and so is BF. We are out of school so I can spend the entire day with him which made me so happy. I even made sure we have the same day off so we can see each other. We both work nights and went to school in the morning so we barely see each other, were only together when we sleep. So today the plans were for BF to go pick up his son and for all of us to go shopping for his family's presents. So he gets ready this morning and everything and I'm cleaning the room so we have space to have SS in there.
BF: "I'll be back in taking my mom and sisters to the mall."
Me: "Ok so I'm not going? You don't even tell me about it 'till not when I don't have time to get ready?!"
BF: "I did tell you.
Me: No you freaking didn't. You told me you were going to pick up SS and then we were going to get your sisters presents.
BF: .... (no answer)
So he leaves and says hell be back. Every time he leaves we hug and kiss but this time I didn't even look at him and just said bye. Ugh I'm so freaking mad at him!!
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Honey, I'm not trying to be
Honey, I'm not trying to be patronizing, but.... what is he going to be gone? A couple of hours tops? There's 24 hours in the day, in the scheme of things in this big, bad, awful world is it really worth getting upset about.
Men are just different about these types of things. Be greatful he's not going out to the bar or strip club... he's taking his mom and sis to the mall... kind of cute if you ask me.
Don't sweat the small stuff dear! Hope you have a great Christmas
Oh, I dont know Daizy. this
Oh, I dont know Daizy. this is something that honks me off quite seriously as well. I consider my time valuable. I like spending time with my dh. I have a limited ability to do so. Due to work constraints. If I have a day off-especially a holiday or some unusual nontypical day off then the person I want to be with is dh. I am sooo excited. Amazingly he seems to always have other plans. Not necessarily all day, but a few hours here, oops, a few hours there that he needs to do this or that.
I would tell him how hurt and disappointed you are because you really value your time together and you thought plans were made to be together. Say all this calmly and hopefully he will give a remorseful response.
This time of year just going
This time of year just going to the grocery store can take hours. Going to the mall is going to be at least all afternoon or all morning and then maybe lunch.
He might be going to get you
He might be going to get you a Christmas present and didn't want you to see it.
I remember one year my sister
I remember one year my sister wanted some big make-up kit thing from Estee Lauder. She pestered my BIL about it for a month before Christmas. One day when they were at the mall shortly before Christmas she asked him to get it for her since it was on sale or something, he said no. She had a hissy fit, acted like a spoiled child and finally when they got home, BIL stormed upstairs and got her stupid make-up kit that he had already purchased for her weeks prior and gave it to her. She felt like an ass and has never done that crap again.
I still remember her
I still remember her sheepishly telling me the whole story.... she really did feel like a jerk (as well she should have!) lol
It could be that he's getting
It could be that he's getting you a gift, A couple of years ago DH took off with SS one day and I didn't think anything of it. Christmas morning I was surprised with a solid wood writing desk that I had admired months before...go with the flow and chin up!!
I did think of that but he
I did think of that but he has tomorrow off also and I work he could of done it then not during the day were supposed to be together. Now I'm just home by myself looking like an idiot. The thing that got me mad is that he didn't tell me. It makes me feel like he doesn't want me there and every time he has SS he finds a way for me not to see him. Idk if he has a problem with me being with him or idk. I want SS to be used to me especially since he is so young I might have a chance to have a good relationship with him.
Did you tell your BF that you
Did you tell your BF that you specifically arranged your time off so you could have this day with him? Sometimes, unfortunately you have to spell it out for them to understand
I understand why you're
I understand why you're upset. I would be upset too if I had plans with my SO to spend time together and he told me that we were supposed to pick up his kid and go shopping together. Getting put off like that would hurt my feelings, not to mention I would then have to come up with something to do while I waited or sit around the house bored. It's a let-down.
Hopefully he is off getting you a nice present, like others have suggested.