So I've been MIA for awhile. I've been busy with school and.... Things with BM1 and SD11 have been HELL!
So let me start with SS5 and SD3. I decided I was DONE playing middle man. I stopped anwering their calls, if DH won't answer why should I? I stopped planning trips. I stopped nagging him to call/set up visits/ anything. So, they have not been here since mid-Oct. I remember it was for sure it was a couple weeks before Halloween and they spent their entire visit with me as DH was at work. It hurts me so badly to back off from them because I love these kids dearly but I decided it is HIS children and HIS responsibilty. I'm not their mom, I get no credit and no respect. This hurt BM2 because we had a fairly decent relationship.
Now on to BM2. She was and has always been hell on wheels. Well, she started causing ALL types of issues. SD11's behaviour was HORRIBLE. She was talking anout sex in school, telling her teachers she hates them and school, peeing her pants just to be a brat to teachers. For example she was being disrespectful and terrible to a teacher, that teacher asked her to please removed herself from the class room. She refused and the teacher tried to make her leave and she stood there glaring at her teacher and wet herself and then told her teacher, "Now I'm wet!" Anywhoo, bad bad bad. BM1 was playing her controlling games and would not pick up SD11 when she was supposed to and always demanded she be picked up early. So BM decided the last day of school before Thanksgiving break to come get SD out of school without permission. She is not the custodial parent and basically told the school a sob story about needing her daughter for a dr appointment and the teacher LET HER TAKE SD.
There was hell to pay for that, the cops got involved. BM1 started making threats so I did what anyone should do, I got an order of protection. BM1 retaliated by 1. sending the cops to our house saying we are physically and sexually abusing SD 2. Calling CPS with the same story and saying that SD11 said that if she had to come back to our house she was going to kill herself and SD MUST be returned to BMs care, 3. She filed with the courts basically saying all the same stuff and saying she would like PARTIAL rights reinstated. (Let me just say if someone truly believed that their child was in an abusive situation why the F would you only ask to have that child in your care part time) Basically her parenting plan is that she wants her daughter whenever she says, yet she claims that it was DH that would only allow parenting time when convienient. We will see how all that ends up in court... I told DH he needs to ask for child support at least(which he declined in 2007). We also turned her in for fraud for receiving benefits like welfare, food stamps, and medicaide since 2007 when she has not had her AT ALL since then. She lied and didn't end up in any trouble over it.
I'm just so over all this BS drama. I seriously wish he would hand this little PITA over to her mother and tell them never to contact him again. I think it's amazing that he would give up our daughter in a heartbeat, and he so easily can go without seeing his other two. I am honestly to the point of asking him and "baby girl" to leave. She literally threatened to "tell the police" that I "do bad stuff to her." Shes manipulating EVERYTHING, especially my DH.