Ss14 just sent dh a text
That told him he was done with him. Told him he doesn't have a real dad but a paranoid retired combat medic who accused him of breaking into his shed. Wow. Dh did accuse ss of that like 9 months ago. Somebody had tried to do so (most likely sil)-but for maybe 15 minutes he thought perhaps it was ss because he had caught ss skulking around the garage and found some loose tobacco, a knife, and a can all up in the corner of the garage. So when the shed had been tampered with he did briefly consider that's it was ss. But wow- strange the things he fixates on.
He went on to say some sort of nonsense-what kind of dad are you? I called you on Xmas and you didn't call back- so I'm done. It just amazes me- this is the kid who easily goes 3 months at a tome without speaking to dh- has a history of refusing visits again for months at a time. If the kid ever calls it tends to be at gift giving occasions and dh talks and chats with him very nicely, wishes him well, tells him he loves him.
I encouraged dh to call or text him back and be honest- the reason the kid is not living here is because he wouldn't follow the most simple basic rules of things like don't steal other people's underwear. He displayed no remorse- followed zero other rules and guidelines- but somehow dh is a lousy father for not continuing to put up with it. For wanting to protectbhismother kids and wife. Yet what the kid focused on is the probably one time dh accused him of doing something he actually didn't do.
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Sounds to me like SS is
Sounds to me like SS is simply trying to get a rise out of DH. Its attention seeking behaviour & most likely hes wanting something!! The kid is old enough to know the crap hes pulled is wrong!! Im sure your DHs feelings are hurt by it, no doubt!! Has DH tried to respond to it?
Ummmmm...no.
Ummmmm...no.
Sd17 has pulled this bullshit
Sd17 has pulled this bullshit before but her ass always comes back. Dh ignores ir
If he responds at all it
If he responds at all it should be very simple - like, "I'm sorry you feel that way."
But I'm not sure I'd even respond. Fairly certain I would just delete the text.
it's definitely attention
it's definitely attention seeking behavior, if he was done why did he feel the need to tell his father he was done? He's gone months without speaking to him before so why tell him now?
Well, I would say he totally
Well, I would say he totally broke into the shed, feels (slightly) guilty about it, and trying to pawn his feelings off on dear old dad. Maybe he should text ss back in three months.
Tell him to text back "I
Tell him to text back "I don't have a real son, just a lying panty thief that sends me shitty texts and only calls when he wants a Christmas present."
Some of these responses are
Some of these responses are great! Dh is not really the type to engage in a texting war so he is simply saying nothing. And he is in trouble right now. I believe he had OSS on Thursday and iss on Friday.
You all are right I am sure he is just attention seeking. In the past dh would ae fallen all over himself getting bajck with ss and responding immediately to any texts or cals sp dh's reaction the past coupe of months is definitely different. In the past he would have got ss some expensive Xmas present and then tried to bribe him with that. This year he just wished him a merry Xmas and told him he loved him.
It's hurtful behavior. Not so
It's hurtful behavior. Not so unusual for a teenager.Especially at 13.
MY teen boys do this kind of thing to me. The only way I respond now is by saying that they are my children, if they want me to speak to them like they are more grown up, they have to treat me with the same courtesy and if they would like to talk to me about something then they are welcome to do so, but I will not tolerate disrespect.
If dh doesn't text much, ss likely knows that and expects no response. Texting back a response that pulls at the kid in a no nonsense way may get the point across. If he does text back make sure the text is worded in a way that is not likely to be misinterpreted.
He is obviously seeking
He is obviously seeking attention from your DH. A proper, adult repsonse like "I am sorry you feel that way, can we talk about this?" would be appropriate. He is an angry teen boy.
How about: "And as your
How about: "And as your father, I am mature enough to keep my feelings regarding you to myself." }:)
Yeah, yeah, not helpful but SOOOOO tempting!