SD trying to make me break my disengagement by pissing me off
SD14 has a photo album that BM gave her so. SD14 went and changed all the pics in my picture frames in the family room to pics of BM and DH's wedding. And she took all the pics down of my family and tapped some pics on the wall of her DH and BM when she was little. DH and I woke up to this crap and he took them down and told SD now she is not getting her electronics back for a month. I went out for brunch with some friends and came home to do my laundry and when I started folding I realized all of my romantic undergarments and thongs were missing. I asked SD and she said that she threw them away because their disgusting and no one especially DH should see my boney butt in them. So DH took away her phone said he is taking it off of his plan and pawning it to pay for my underwear. She went to her room and kicked the door open so hard it made a crack in the wall so DH unhinged it and took it off. She then went ballistic hysterical. She got to DH's phone when he was in the bathroom and called BM. BM then being yelling and cursing at DH so loud I could hear it. She thinks SD did no wrong because she can do no wrong and DH and I are just evil and that she is on her way to pick up her daughter. I don't want SD coming back to my house until she can change her attitude and behavior.
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Wow, that girl has some
:jawdrop:
Wow, that girl has some serious anger issues.
Instead of just taking away electronics, why not take away everything? Her room has a bed, pillow, blanket, two (boring) outfits, and one pair of shoes.
If BM is primary, though, I'd imagine SD's visits will stop soon.
I agree. Take away EVERYTHING
I agree. Take away EVERYTHING and give her a sleeping bag. Holy bejeezus, at least your DH tries to parent. Better than most of them.
This is unacceptable. Unfortunately she sounds way PASed already so prepare yourself for the emotional blackmail that will be to come.
what is PASed?
what is PASed?
PASed refers to a child who
PASed refers to a child who is a victim of parental alienation. PAS is Parental Alienation Syndrome. It might help to read up on it to figure out if it is definitely something that is being expressed by SD and BM.
http://www.parentalalienation.org/articles/index.html
I'm glad to see your DH is
I'm glad to see your DH is parenting your SD. Too bad it doesn't sound like it's doing any good because it's clear that SD still holds a grudge against you.
And if her BM can't understand why SD is in trouble, doesn't seem like SD will realize why she's in trouble anytime soon. She's clearly blaming you even though she only has herself to blame. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt, slept in it. Same situation with my SD - she gets in trouble at our house and blames me for getting in trouble. Heck, I'm sure if she could figure out a way to justify it, she'd blame me for every last little thing that went wrong in her life.
Only suggest I have right now is to just hold on tight, keep disengaging, and let DH handle it all, as you have been doing. Sounds like your DH has a handle on the consequences for her behavior. Just be prepared for it to get worse before it gets better, if it gets better.
I'd suggest getting the kid into counseling, but, if BM is primary custodial parent, it might not do any good and might just feed the delusions that BM and SD are harboring. In order for it to be effective, the counselor would have to know the truth of the situation, but, I highly doubt SD and BM would be capable of relaying that truth.
It could get worse man all I
It could get worse
man all I did was marry the man I love.
Sadly, for some of these
Sadly, for some of these skids, the only thing we ever did wrong was exist. We can be super nice, caring, accommodating, give them things, do things for them, and be as awesome as we think we should be, but, especially in the case of a skid who has been experiencing Parental Alienation, it will never be enough because we simply exist.
Well SD has to go home in a
Well SD has to go home in a few hours anyways as stated in CO but BM was threatining that SD is never coming back here so that may start a huge shit storm.
For me yeah of course. But
For me yeah of course. But for DH no matter how awful that is his daughter and she could kill someone and he would still love her. I'm sure he doesn't not want to see her but all ths drama is just stressful. We should be happy newlyweds.
Can/did your DH get that
Can/did your DH get that threat in writing? If so, that could come in handy if BM does try to keep SD from him, especially if there's a CO that dictates custody and visitation.
Yes he got it in a text. Is
Yes he got it in a text. Is that good?
YES! Save that text! Screen
YES! Save that text! Screen cap it, have DH email it to himself, keep copies of it on a PC, anything to make sure that you have a copy of the fact that she texted him saying she was going to keep SD from him. Just make sure it's clear when it was sent and that it was from BM - remove her name from the phone contact so only her number is displayed (that way she can't try to claim someone else sent it). It is proof that she's trying to interfere with his parenting and the visitation that is dictated by the CO.
let her go with BM and
let her go with BM and celebrate she is not in your house, what a brat.
Holy Crap!!!! That is just
Holy Crap!!!! That is just nuts!! Hang in there girl,I fear your in for a bumpy ride
!!! But! Youve got the biggest asset in your favor - a supportive DH who ISNT afraid to..... Parent!!! Thats like the holy grail in all this Stepmess!!! A protective husband who isnt afraid to parent his outta control kid!! Yay for your DH!!!!
I woulda gone ballistic if those were my family portraits she took down!!! But the utter Gall of her to replace em with pics of BM & DH?!? Oh holy cow!!!! Our BM posted pics on skids FB accounts of BM & DHs wedding pics right after Our wedding. I thought that was horrendous!!! But holy crap--- what your skid did was waaaay worse!!! She needs major counseling!
Sorry your going thru all this Stephell!!!!
what is 302? And Wow i was
what is 302? And Wow i was never that bad. I couldn't have sucked my teeth at my mom without having them knocked out lol
she wouldn't be coming back
she wouldn't be coming back to my house for a very long time. and when she did, she would have only the bare essentials and not a damn thing more. who the hell does she think she is?
WOW!!!! I can totally believe
WOW!!!! I can totally believe she did this because after the two experiences I have had with stepbrats, my last relationship and now current marriage, I know that these evil little monsters are capable of ANYTHING!! But still WOW! What a bitch! I would have yanked all the pics down off the wall and out of the frames and made a nice little fire for myself! I would have burned all of them. Piss on that level of disrespect in your home. No way. She would not have had to call her BM, I would have done so for her and told her to come and get her prodigy. As for the underware, again, WOW. How dare her! She has some serious issues, but that is not your problem, nor should you be subjected to that kind of ridiculousness. Her ass would be gone and not welcomed back. EVER. Because, if she is this ballsy now, what will she pull next time?
Did you somehow get my sd for
Did you somehow get my sd for the evening?? ** hug**