NBBM is bombarding SO with text
The last one received about an hour ago was
" What kind of hold does that bitch have on you? I can hook you up with some friends that are alot younger and better looking than her if its pu!!y you are after"
There was a minor incident on Sunday evening with SD13. She of course along with her sisters went back to BMs Monday nite and lied and embellished and BM has not stopped texting and FBing since.
What happend was on Sunday nite, SO had the bright idea for me to take stwins 9 and BD8 to a local icecream store and had SD18, SD14 and SD13 meet us there because it was buy one get one nite. When we walked in the 3 older ones were there and SD13 says to BD8 as she walks by "you look like and idiot and your'e such a moron"
Now I know thats not the end of the world but I HAD ENOUGH. This woman child has been bullying and picking on and tormenting BD8 at home and at school and anywhere for over a year now and no one will do or say anything to her. MIL FIL SIL and SO all just say "shes just a kid" and "thats how kids are" and "Thats just SD13 and how she is"
So I looked dead at her and said " I heard you" and she shrugged her shoulders and said " I dont care" I said "BD8 heard you too and that way uncool" She again shrugged her shoulders and said "I dont care" and then she started whispering to SD14 and giggling.
So I said (not yelled, but not quietly) "That would be like me calling you an idiotic moron in front of all these people because they heard you too."
And I took BD8 and told her we would wait outside until the mean girl had left.
I called SO and told him what was going on and he was angry. But mostly at me at first. After he got their story,in which they all 3 older ones said I was yelling and called her a bitch, He came by home to get my story which I told him what I just told you all. He was still angry and made older 3 stay with him at work til he got done.
So now the text, and accusing us of abusing the skids. Nevermind the fact that they are abusing BD8. Shes ok with that. And how this house is those kids house and " we conceived SD13 in that house" and now you wont let her be there" and and and
Holy crap, its been 4 years.
All her fb friends keep telling her not to let skids come here. I wish she would listen. But her answer to them is , "I cant, I have to work" Uh, they are old enuff to stay home on Saturdays, and she is off on Sundays. She forces them to come here every weekend, and If SD18 doesnt drive them here, BM drops them off to SO's moms!
rambling, ranting, I know I know I gotta do something, I cant take this. My car is looking like a great home at this point.
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I stop myself because it
I stop myself because it doesnt even enter my mind to do that. AND I NEVER leave BD8 alone with SD13, not even in another room.
But it does enter my mind to get the heck outa here. And when I bring it up SO gets all teary and says he doesnt want me to leave.
To me either I go or she does. AND I know it cant be her. She may/ormaynot be his kid }:) ANd clearly she doesnt want to come here but BM makes her. BM and SD13 just want me gone so they will have control over SO.
Im pretty sure if/when I leave he will just leave the skids at his moms and stay out all the time and turn into a train wreck.
Yep I hear you. I dealt with
Yep I hear you. I dealt with this when my SO and I were living together. His son 14 would bully my 14yo bs all the time. It got to the point where my blood would boil and I just resented ss so much for the hurt he was causing. My SO was supportive to a point but kinda treated it like my bs was being precious, that was until bs flattened ss on a family camping weekend and ss friend who was there stuck up for my bs and said to SO that ss had been being bloody awful to bs all weekend. Anyhow I ended getting my own place and keeping bs/ss largely separate. I figured it was better for both of them and if ss wants to be a prick and SO is gonna let him well he's not my son so how he turns out is not up to me. As far as your Bd goes I'd be telling her to give it right back to SD (i can see there's a big age gap but who does she think she is?) as far as BM goes block her from your Facebook and or don't look at it. In terms of harassing texts your DH should be letting her know if it continues then he will be filing for a restraint order. She sounds ridiculous to be engaging the way she is without talking to you guys over what the issues are. Good luck.
Thats what I told him
Thats what I told him earlier, and he is all about it in the moment but here in a day or so when it dies down, He wont do a thing.
He says theres nothing he can do. He doesnt respond to BMs text, she just sends them over and over. He doesnt speak to BM ,. they havent spoken in 3 years.
I say doing nothing and not speaking isnt working so do the opposite and get in her face and stop her!
ANd tell her to keep the skids home until they can learn to act like people. Even an Act would be better than what they are.
Yikes, not sure about the "I
Yikes, not sure about the "I can't do anything about it" attitude. Sounds like he is avoiding the issue by wishing it would just go away. Are you able to send her a txt and ask her to stop or you and SO will be filing for RO? Just a thought, if SO won't handle it maybe you need to weigh in. Either that or write BM a letter/text/email stating what SD has been like.... Do it objectively without threat and maybe.... Just maybe she might get a different angle.
Ash, I know you mean well,
Ash, I know you mean well, but no, I am afraid of BM. SHe is certifiable. She is the Queen of the Golden Uterus. SHe gave birth to HIS kids and that makes her all knowing and all worthy and she can make life even more hellish for me . I tried one time to reason with her and I just dont have the words to explain her evilness.
Oki dokes, there is no
Oki dokes, there is no arguing with certifiable..... Your SO has to step up here I really feel for you I know how shitty these dynamics can make you feel. Sending you hugs. Be there for your Bd and if need be make a stand that SD does not come over until she sorts her crap out. If SO argues he may need to know that his obligation to BD's well being should be just as paramount as that of SD. She sounds like BM has probably PAS'd her out.... If SO has no contact with BM could he not just bar her number so texts don't get through??
His reason/excuse for not
His reason/excuse for not blocking her is that is how he keeps a timeline of her crazy cycle and for documentation *insert eyeroll here*
Thanks for all your comments, It really does help to have someone listen that is not a party to it
did your husband make them
did your husband make them apologize to your daughter?
No, he reamed her when she
No, he reamed her when she got back to his work with her icecream and she and the others lied about what I said. She wouldnt admit to it. She wants to stay at her moms but her mom wont let her. So somehow that is my and BD8s fault and she is just horrid to us, I can take it, BD8 is just a little girl. She cant.
Here's the thing, you are
Here's the thing, you are sacrificing your child's well being to stay married to him and exposing her to this. At some point you will have to choose. We did with SD16 to save SS14 and BS18. She is no longer welcome here. Never going to change. She is toxic and a bully to my SS.
Sometimes, you have to protect one and sacrifice the other.
Jsmom, You are so right. I am
Jsmom, You are so right. I am going to use your line with him tonite. The beauty is that we are not married
so legally it wont be messy If I have to leave with BD. Mentally it will be because I love this guy. And he loves me. In a kidless relationship we would be awesomeness 
huh? are you kidding?
huh? are you kidding? anybody, even some little idiots where I live say such a thing to my son and I will call them on it in front of everyone...I could care less what anyone says. Your DH is a MORON because if he believes his pathetic kid over his wife, he is a moron. Sorry, but I have ZERO tolerance for bullying and anybody that messes with my kid WILL hear an earful.
PS - my shitty nephew did the same to my son a couple of times...my sister got pissed at me cause I yelled at her kid...I could care LESS...too freaking bad...teach your kid not to abuse others and I will leave him the f#$%ck alone
Lol on the shitty nephew. And
Lol on the shitty nephew.
And yep I agree, and what I said to DSO was "either she will learn not to do that anymore or she will learn to be prepared for my response" I said If you are gonna act an ass in public, then I am gonna call you and ASS in public.
Hmmm so it is OK for a 13 yr
Hmmm so it is OK for a 13 yr old to pick on an 8 yr old. And your daughter has been exposed to this bratina since she was 7?
Honey, haul up camp and move out. Just tell SO that you are a bad mother for allowing this to continue for so long and you have lost all respect for him since he will not train his daughters how to be nice young women.
If he goes off the rails well there isn't much substance to the man where he is only hanging on to normality by your bra straps. He should be able to stand on his own 2 feet, tell his daughters to stop being evil little tramps and shut his BM down for good. He CAN block her. He just doesn't want to. And he will continue to find excuses to let his daughters mean-girl act slide by.
But my parting shot for these girls will be this "Well, you may think you have won. But you will never know what you lost when I left your father's life. Can either of you spell 'inheritance'?
"
Of course there is no inheritance.
You are just wondering if they can spell it.... }:)
I would not allow my child to be used as a focus of meanness nor would I tolerate them being mean.
This is it. Take action.
This is it. Take action. Please.