CS madness?
BM is frothing mad again, because she claims that the state sent her a statement to the effect that DH owes her $67 from last month. He has never missed a payment, it is taken directly from his paychecks-- at her insistence we do this, because she has this convoluted fantasy that DH is a deadbeat dad who has all but abandoned her and the kids! I really believe she wishes he *were* a deadbeat so she could feel vindicated and swan around being a giant martyr. Now, $67. Over a month. Probably a clerical mistake, because they have damn well been taking the money out, but they don't always fork it straight over to BM.
Is CS always screwed up? I mean they seem to screw up DH's payments at least once a month, and it's never something he did. BM rains shit on him like one second after she fails to get the whole amount she "deserves" every week. She called once and got into it with me, calling his payments a joke, telling me that he needed to pay her more, and when I said we don't even have any more money (like who has extra these days?) she said "well you need to FIND IT!" Yeah... To support your outrageous shopping addiction. We'll get right on that. >:(
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If DH pays through the state
If DH pays through the state she needs to call the state. Let them have fun dealing with her.
I wish she would, actually I
I wish she would, actually I think she DOES call them, too, but she never misses a chance to scream at DH.
It is always screwed up.
It is always screwed up.
When my DH got his cs to just automatically withdraw from his accounts, the clerks did the correct payment amount, but not the court 'filing fee' so it went for months without being paid, one day BOOM. Cops at the door because he is behind hundreds of dollars even though he paid the correct amount, that filing fee added up and almost sent my DH to jail
CS is just screwed sideways.
Yeah, I am always afraid they
Yeah, I am always afraid they will do something awful like that, especially when right away they looked at all his check stubbs and determined he had way way overpaid (he had) and they adjusted but then things were screwy with it for weeks.
I on the receiving end of
I on the receiving end of child support for my oldest. I'm supposed to receive payment every two weeks. Every now and then, I will get the full amount, but in three payments over the course of a few days. I don't sweat it. I know he's good for it...and if he's not, it will come out of his taxes eventually.
It sucks when it doesnt work
It sucks when it doesnt work exactly the way it's supposed to, but BM has a job, she doesn't pay rent, and her live in boyfriend works and pays for shit for her, too. If the CSE gets the payment to her a day late she acts like it's tantamount to murder. She calls to whine for hours about how hard her life is, and declares that she doesn't give a shit about any of our hardships (like, after bitching about every expense she thinks DH should be forking over more $, i try to explain that actually we both work very hard and have bills, too, and she just breathes fire and brimstone, basically says her hardships are our problem but ours aren't hers!) also, she takes weekend-long shopping trips to outlet centers and then calls to shriek at DH because a CS was short by $5.
Blah. He used to mail her a check every week, but she thought she would get more if she forced him to go through the state. I wish she could be reasonable about this stuff, like you, but... Sigh....
We pay directly to CSE every
We pay directly to CSE every month at the insistence of BM. When it first got set up with CSE, she didn't receive payment for three weeks. We paid on the 1st of the month, but it took a while to get everything set up through the state. She kept demanding we pay her directly after we had already paid through the state. Umm...NO! We don't have an extra $1100 to fork over because the state is taking too long. Any time the state is slow getting the payment to her, she tries to get DH to pay her directly on top of what we already paid the state. Luckily, my DH has no guilty feelings towards her. He tells her to get a job and F off. }:)
Yeah, that is BM's favorite
Yeah, that is BM's favorite trick, too, "it's one day late, you need to send money NOW!" Especially after she has spent too much on a shopping spree, she called once after a spending spree and screamed that she didn't have money for groceries. Really? You didn't have any money for bread and peanut butter for the kids, but you could spend two days shopping till you drop? Really?
It's like these women think
It's like these women think the ex is an ATM. We actually had a judge tell our BM that DH is not an ATM, and if she continues to come after him for more money, he will modify the CS to what it should be, which is $250 lower than what we are paying. The only reason he didn't then is because DH hadn't filed for the modification.
Yeesh, wish I could just
Yeesh, wish I could just scream at an ATM and get free money!
CSE is screwy... FDH is in
CSE is screwy... FDH is in arrears because they move SO SLOW. He was working two jobs and knew he would be losing one, so he let them know so they could move the garnishment from one job to the other.. Thye had all the info they needed.
The idiots sent a stop notice to both employers. No garnishment orders...just the stop orders. It took 6 weeks to get it sorted out. They tried to suspend his license for non-payment, he was furious.
I think all of our BM's share
I think all of our BM's share at least one strand of DNA (the greedy strand)
My DH's ex insisted on having CS go thru CSE so she'd be assured to get her cut weekly no.matter.what. Fine, it's worked OK up until this past year. I don't know if they've changed something/someone at CSE, but there have been multiple occasions where they'll skip a week posting then post 2-3 payments within the course of 5 days. Of course DH doesn't have anything to do with this, as the money is taking directly from his payroll every Thursday and sent to CSE. What THEY do with it from there is out of his hands.
Like clockwork, BM starts blowing up his cell phone AND our house phone (clorox wipes, please) pissed at DH because she hasn't gotten "HER MONEY". She DEMANDS DH gets it set straight with CSE, only because I think they all refuse to talk to her (based on previous experience). Then she's calling every 30 min or so to see if DH figured it out. I finally told him to stop answering the damned phone -- there is nothing for HIM to figure out, it shows it's been paid to CSE (transaction numbers/dates are available from his employer). Of course this has resulted, a time or two, in her physically driving over here to start in on DH.
Oh, and I must mention, when she starts in with this shit of course DH gets crabby with me (for no reason... I physically leave the room when that bitch calls so it's not like I'm mouthing off while they're conversing).
We have one more year.... just one more year of this bullshit. But now BM is saying if DH doesn't continue to pay CS until 21 (instead of 19 like our state just changed to) she's going to kick out SK. I told DH to stop CS at 19, SK will be old enough to be on his own and I'd rather DH use that money to DIRECTLY help out SK when needed as opposed to sending it to BM because it never seems to filter down to the SK.
Yeah! Exactly! Man, i KNOW
Yeah! Exactly! Man, i KNOW that his CS doesn't go to the Skids at least not as much as it SHOULD. i am looking forward to the day they turn 12 and they get to tell the court they don't want to live with BM. Even if only one of them leaves her, and liver with us. Not just for the CS, but she is a rotten bitch, and the poor Skids have to suffer with it, even if she directs the bulk of her pointless anger at DH. She likes to put out this big long sob story about how expensive childcare is for her--boohoo-- but she gets subsidies and a voucher from the state. She quotes the retail price to us like it's what she pays, but she pays less than an eighth of what she claims, if that. She lives in her "fiance"s home, and when DH gives her $$ for things like the kids glasses, she runs to a mall! We have yet to see the stupid glasses. She did the same with a rather large chunk of money DH gave her for SS7 to have badly needed dental surgery. She forced her 7yo to postpone fixing his painful teeth for a year and a half. Never saw that money again, either!