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Submitted by Chrisgreen01 on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 10:08am

My step son is breaking up my home. I have let him, his "baby momma" her kid, and their kid come live with me. I went home for lunch one day and him and one of his buddies were in my house smoking weed with the babies running around. He was using a pipe that I found and had lock away and he some how stole it. I confront him, he put the pipe to his mouth and said, "whatever, man". I kicked them all out. They went to stay with her grandpa, and now he has kicked them out. He now wants to come live with me again. I told his mother no way. She cried and begged .I told her if he appoligized. Last night, in his attempt to, he told me I need to say I was sorry first. I went nutz and blew up. I can not stand the kid and I don't know what to do. Please help.

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Submitted by HungryEyes on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 10:17am

Definitely No and call CPS. Also if your user name includes your real name - you want to change it and repost this.

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Submitted by Chrisgreen01 on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 10:25am

To clarify, the pipe was his that his mother found earlier. She locked it in our bedroom closet so we could confront him with it at a later time. He somehow broke in to our room and got it.

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Submitted by ENuff on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 10:58am

So to clarify he broke into your closet n stole the pipe.
So he is sneaky , conniving n a thief. Plus a pot smoking young Daddy ~ sounds like he is successful !

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Submitted by ENuff on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 11:02am

How long ago did "whoever" find the pipe ~ curious as to how long it has been locked away ...

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Submitted by ENuff on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 10:40am

What do you to apologize for ???? Kicking him out ~ hell no

Follow the follow chart back to figure out what he needs to apologize for ~ he's a dumbass !!

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 10:59am

Stand your ground NO. Anyone old enough to make a kid needs to live on their own, unless there are unfortunate circumstances which they did not ask for, I.e. baby or parent is ill and bankrupt due to medical bills, their house got blown away by a tornado, etc...

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Submitted by Chrisgreen01 on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 4:28pm

When I kicked SS and out the first time....as I was talking to me and put the weed pipe up to his mouth and said "whatever man"....so I call him a selfish F and he was not thinking about his baby or anyone else...So, he wants me to say sorry for that.....I told him I still feel the same way so how could I be sorry...It's going to be a long night...If I have to call the Sheriff's dept...I hope they help...

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Submitted by Bradymom on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 11:18am

No way no how should you allow him back... If you do you are part of these babies poor childhood. Enabling them to make terrible life threatening choices. You cannot be a part of it. You are either FOR IT or AGAINST IT. Call authorities!

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Submitted by Bradymom on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 11:23am

Classic addict deflection tactics. Look at all YOU have done wrong, so he STILL isn't being held accountable. Disrespect for authority, by making you peers- that you would need to first apologize to him. Nope. Bad news!

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Submitted by kathc on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 11:26am

Wow. How about "hell no" to him ever moving back in and a phone call to CPS about the weed smoking in front of his child?

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Submitted by Chrisgreen01 on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 11:28am

the pipe was found a coupla weeks before. She just procrastinated on talking to him. She has already had one child kill himself and this punk told her he was going to do it to. Manipulating his momma.

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Submitted by ENuff on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 11:54am

Sorry I would run n run fast n far if I were you. You just answered my next question ~ she is never going to hold him accountable for anything. If she believes his threats ~ he should b going through some testing. She is totally enabling him n he is taking it all in ~ n laughing his ass off. He has her exactly where he wants her.

Nothing is going to change ~ she is parenting out of guilt. There is nothing you can say or do that will matter. The pure simple fact that she didn't say anything to him for awhile ~ dictates it.

Lift that rug for her ~ so she can sweep in under. Run for your own sanity !!!

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Submitted by Chrisgreen01 on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 12:15pm

she just called to tell me that when I left this morning, he put his truck in my garage and while backing up, put a hole in the wall....it just keep getting better...I called the Sheriff's dept to find out if he could be arrested. They told me he owes $2450.00 but he is not behind yet. I know it is a matter of time but I don't know if I can make it that long..

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Submitted by ENuff on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 12:31pm

It's a wrap ~ you got your broke the camels back !

Tough love ~ he's a sponge.

If he can't pay his 2450.00 ~ how in the world is he gonna pay for the garage repair. Your spinning your wheels ~ she doesn't respect your opinion if she doesn't hold his responsible.

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Submitted by Chrisgreen01 on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 2:19pm

Just went out to my truck and he broke the side mirror off...I told her I love her and don't want her to leave but he can no longer stay there.

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Submitted by ENuff on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 2:41pm

I really hope it works out for you. Smile

I am sure you feel somewhat better now ~ voicing your opinion.

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Submitted by Chrisgreen01 on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 3:22pm

Thanks everyone for the opinions....nice to know I'm in the right....her fb friends are saying that I'm the mean one and she should never put me ahead of her kid...which I agree, but I can't take it anymore.

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Submitted by Chrisgreen01 on Thu, 11/14/2013 - 4:53pm

It's almost time to go home and it's a shame, but I am dreading it...I will post tomorrow...