So I have lurked on here on and off for a few months and finally needed to get it all out.

I am getting married in less than a month to a great guy with 3 kids- ss11, sd10, sd8. They are great kids we have a pretty good relationship.... Except for the BM (surprise? right?)

They have been divorced for 7 years, she is remarried, has another child with the new husband. So she has no reason to be so hateful... but she is. She tells the kids lies about me all the time, tells them I overstpe my bounds, and they dont have to listen to me. Never mind the lies she speaks about their father... In fact SD10, the other day told me not to worry, becasue she does this to everyone....

I go out of my way to be nice to this woman and make it a point to never say anything bad about her. And her new husband has been overseas with the military and she made NO attempts to come to any of the kids activities.... but then he comes home on a family hardship (she told him she could no longer be alone and take care of kids all by herself) and suddenyl she shows up over the weekend (HER weekend) and buys all sorts of stuff and makes it like shes mom of the year... nevermind the fact she couldnt get the kids to their activities on HER weekend and then made a HUGE deal when she had to take my SDs home on Sunday. And spent the whole time at the activity, saying negative stuff about me to the kids.

I know that this is the hand I was dealt... just wanted a place to vent and get it all out...

Oh and did I mention that she told the kids that my fiance and I tried to "STEAL" her wedding day with her new husband? Apparently their wedding ann. is like 7 days after our wedding date.... you know I did that on purpose, right? UGH.... just tell me I am not alone....