She is so extreme and dramatic. She starts things with people at school and she sends out these texts to multiple kids then she gets all psycho falling in the floor bawling and hyperventilating about how this boy is harassing and bullying her for noooo reason at all and he has all the kids harassing her calling her whore and bitch.

Well, she started it. She texts him. She texts his girlfriend. Then when he said "Fat C*** leave me the f*** alone and stop f***ing texting me" she goes bat shit crazy about see how he abuses her!

It's mind boggling. She texts his girlfriend "Did you talk to your BF yet? Tell him to stop talking about me or I will do something. I know you don't like me. No body likes me. It's okay. I hate me too."

Seriously.

She threw herself in the floor bawling how she can't go to school tomorrow. Gasping and sobbing and please please please. Then she turns and gets aggressive how we are awful to her and 'yeah ok send me and I'll get beaten and harassed thanks". (Can you see my eyes roll with that one??)

She started the whole drama; she perpetuates the drama. She does not see it. She sees herself as this great victim of bullying, harassment, and abuse.

I really do not know what to do at this point. We took the phone and blocked the boy's number.

She says all these kids call her whore and bitch and ugly and harass her. DH said go to school. WTF am I supposed to do when she has a meltdown in the morning and he' off at work? She has skipped TWICE now because of mental health (AKA she started shit at school and couldn't face the music of the repercussions of the kids being pissed). She says if she JUST skips tomorrow it will blow over... and what about NEXT drama, what then? She will have to skip then too huh?

I am trying to be supportive and listen and care, but FFS EVEN DH SAYS SHE BRINGS IT ALL ON HERSELF.

Positive note: I am not stressing out over her stuff any more. With a toddler and being 27 weeks pregnant, I won't allow it to affect me like it used to.

I had to put away the pills again because I know SD14 and she makes sure she PROVES she is mental if we don't believe it "enough".

I am still checking her bags when she comes in and her pockets... the sick thing is she LIKES IT. She grins and smiles and turns out her pockets.

The therapist is trying to say poor dear is just so neglected and starved for love... um no she is BORDERLINE same as her MOTHER! Mother's husband told me and DH she is borderline and not to believe anything BM says! He told us some stuff about her exaggerating and lying and it's just the same as the crap SD14 does.

At least DH sees it very clearly now for one and for second SD14 found someone knew to make her monster (This boy at school and her own BM whom she visited for the first time this month after three years - now BM was mean to her and harassed her all weekend). Whatever, she's not exaggerating or making up stuff about ME now!

She is always designing situations to have to be saved. God help us four more years of high school.

This had been such a good week with her too. She has been kind, loving, helpful, sweet, and down right amazing and fun to be around all week. So, I know she's got emotional/mental problem and am working with the therapist and trying to coparent with DH and support SD14 best I can, but FFS some times I just want to hollar at her "Freaking stop being like that". These texts she sends out "no one likes me, you don't like me, that's ok, I hate me too because I am so ugly and stupid but I won't bother you anymore"... and copies and pastes to multiple kids. They used to flock to her and oooh SD14 we lurv you, but now they reply "k" or not at all or a couple say "STFU FFS I can't make you happy no one can".

Plan for this episode:

1. Take the phone for a couple days - misused by getting psycho with people, but mainly taking it to prevent further escalation and drama.
2. Talk to therapist that she sees weekly about this episode.
3. Set up meeting with school principle and counselor. Her emotional dysregulation is disruptive at school.
4. Continue to "listen" and pat her and let it roll off and no longer try to reason with the irrational.