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Submitted by Rhinodad on Wed, 04/23/2014 - 9:49am

Had a small victory yesterday with DW regarding SD7.

It is not our week with her, she is with BioDad this week. DW found out about a kids event at the state expo center not too far away from us, and thought it would be a fun time to take BS3 to.

She asks me "should I see if we can get SD7 from her father to go with us?"

My response: "No. This is her week with her father, if he wants to take her to something fun he can." (I know he won't, they'll just play video games all weekend).

DW says "Ok." And that is the end of the conversation. Amazing. This has to be the first time it has not devolved into "why don't you like SD7" or "it's not fair to SD7 if BS3 gets to do x while she is at her dad's house."

Just had to share the good news.

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Submitted by askYOURdad on Wed, 04/23/2014 - 9:53am

Yay! But seriously... you secretly didn't want her to go because you hate her right??? }:) Just kidding!

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Submitted by Rhinodad on Wed, 04/23/2014 - 10:02am

Haha... I really just want to spend some time with my son without her constant complaining and making everything about her. I'm a horrible person, clearly.

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Submitted by FMSL on Wed, 04/23/2014 - 11:25am

Ha--in that case, I'm a horrible person too! I really don't like spending "family time" is SD is there. It always ends up being about her and she always ruins the normal interaction DH & I could be having with BD3.

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Submitted by Rhinodad on Wed, 04/23/2014 - 12:38pm

It's not a new household though, we've been this way for over 5 years now. She shouldn't still be settling in.

Though I imagine she feels bad for leaving her daughter out, but does she feel bad for our BS when his half-sister gets to do things he doesn't? Nope.

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Wed, 04/23/2014 - 4:51pm

It isn't wrong to want time with JUST your own child.

SD11 will be with BM2 for 8 weeks this summer. SD7 goes to her mom's house every other week. I am looking forward to having those precious weeks with my kids sans the stepdaughters.

I love my stepdaughters. Adore them, I fact. But they have mothers. My children have me, and it's difficult to carve out time for them without it becoming a "your kids/my kids" or "you're not being inclusive" battle.

It shouldn't be difficult to understand that my bios deserve my undivided attention as much as my steps deserve the attention of their parents sometimes. I wish DH wouldn't take it so personally.