SD6 has gone off the deep end
She might beat all of your skids to jail!
In the last two weeks she has blown her top on four different occasions that I know of. I only know of four because ALL FOUR resulted in SO or BM2 having to go pick her up from school early. Today's was actually so bad that SD6s class was being taught in the cafeteria because it took SO, BM2, SD6, and a teacher an HOUR AND A HALF to clean the disaster she made when she lost it.
SO sent me a video after they'd been cleaning for a bit. She had tossed chairs, thrown papers all over the floor from her teachers desk (I assume, they looked like flyers and worksheets), ripped artwork off their bulletin boards, and knocked lord knows what off some shelves all over the floor.
She loses it often here, over nothing. If she is not in control of everything around her she goes off. BM has insisted for YEARS that she is "super strict". this is just proving that she isn't. That psycho kid is going to be kicked out of school before she's 8.
I think the only thing that's 'saving' her is that they live in a shitty town with such a high poverty/welfare level that if you go to the public school, you get free lunch - no forms, everyone gets free lunch and breakfast. So nobody else in the place has high standards for their own children. If this happened in the school I worked in.. heads would roll. I would have parents in my room FREAKING out at me. I'm honestly astounded by the lack of response from the other parents and the school. They aren't having meeting with SO and BM, they won't move the IEP meeting closer (it's at the end of Nov.) They just keep having SD picked up.
SO is pissed. BM supposedly was getting SD into a behavior specialist when this started with minor tantrums (in comparison) a month ago. He demanded SDs insurance card and started calling up offices today to find someone, since he is the only one who seems to care.
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Yikes! At least SD shares her
Yikes! At least SD shares her rage fairly with everyone, she doesn't have just one target.
That's terrifying.
That's terrifying.
I need some chocolate after
:jawdrop: I need some chocolate after reading that.
Do you have other kids in the
Do you have other kids in the home? I think I'd be a little scared.
We have a very small apt. I
We have a very small apt. I can see them almost anywhere and hear them no matter what, and if I go out, BS5 comes with me. I don't honestly think she would/could hurt SD8. SD8 is far more pliant than her classmates and teachers, no violence needed to get her way. She only goes off like this on SO and I, sometimes BS because he is headstrong.
This is when you get a paddle
This is when you get a paddle and beat her ass. There is nothing medically wrong that an ass whipping will not cure. My parents raised difficult to place foster children. And none of them ever acted like this, and their lives were WAY worse than mommy and daddy divorcing.
From reading this website I see many instances where some consistent discipline would magically cure rage issues. Because again, there is nothing medically wrong with this kid. She is a brat.
Sorry I am irritable today. Some ones step child came into my store and broke a register, because she was a brat. Her mother better fear me now, because the next time she leaves that brat unattended in my store I am going to sell her to child slavers. And I mean that.
We're EOWE so we REEEAAALLY
We're EOWE so we REEEAAALLY can't do anything. We deal with her tantrums and crazy-ass behavior with little emotional reaction, but there isn't any lasting impression we can make.
Jesus Christ, that list is scary
She's tried to hit but we've always caught her. Though she has been to the office for kicking another child at school at the beginning of the year. I dunno how she functions at BMs, they have a 3y.o and a 7m.o.
So far nobody has suggested anything. SO is looking into behavior specialists because he wants someone with more "authority" to tell BM what HAS TO HAPPEN to deal with this.
It's just a continued
It's just a continued escalation of behavior. It would be extreme if it was new, SD6 never left the "terrible twos" she's only gotten bigger and more angry. When she was younger I (wrongly) assumed they went on a little longer than normal because she was late speech-wise therefore more frustrated than other children. But they've just continued and become worse as the years pass.
Up until now they only affected our home life, but now they're spilling over at school because only two people who see her 4 days a month are telling her she's wrong. Everyone else just encourages her by giving in.
She was evaluated as an
She was evaluated as an infant and as a toddler for Early Intervention - BM failed ot keep the meetings after they started services. SD6 got into Head Start and tested into services again in pre-k, but they did not happen. Last year in Kindergarten she tested into services and received a little speech therapy but not until almost the end of the year and BM didn't have her continue in the summer. And they won't start any services until after the IEP meeting - which is at the end of November.
She had heart surgery as an
She had heart surgery as an infant, she has low muscle tone and was late on many milestones because of the surgery slowing her down. Her and a thousand other children. These other children however, had mothers who called EI like they were supposed to and these other children got speech therapy, and physical therapy to remove (or help) all of those potential issues before school even started.
BM2 was 'too busy' being a 'single mom' to deal with that. Now she is 'too busy' being a 'working mom' of three kids to deal with it. SD6 has speech delays, and she is marshmellowy (obviously not incapable of rage-flipping furniture though). She walked normally, and met all her fine and gross motor milestones on target after about 8mos old. The speech is the only thing that has stayed behind. SD8 ALSO has terrible speech but she received all the therapy for it, they took a break while she lost all her front teeth but they're back at it now that she has teeth again. She's understandable 85% of the time now.
SD6 NEEDS speech therapy and probably PT. SO can't make that happen, we don't have custody of her.