BJ's bday party was Saturday. SD22 did FB invitations, but didn't send real ones. FDH doesn't have FB. I told him a week or 2 ago when the party was. I had plans earlier in the day Saturday. I went to take my niece to get her school pictures done, I took the kids to the bounce house, then the kids, my gramma and I had dinner with DD19 in the city she is in for college. I had to take my gramma home, and stop at my mom's, then I came home. FDH never said one word about wanting to go to that party, and I don't feel it's my job to remind him repeatedly. I already told him once and it was on the calendar. If he forgets, that's his problem.

I got a text Saturday night wanting to know why we didn't come. It pisses me off just a bit because she didn't come to DS6's bday party, or DD19's graduation or open house even though she said she would, she never came to any of DS6's T Ball games or his preschool graduation, and I never questioned her. If you don't come, you don't come. I don't ask people for an explanation. So I guess it's ok for her to miss shit and never offer up a reason, but if we miss anything at all, we damn well better explain ourselves. Fuck that. I told her we both forgot and that I was gone all day. I also told her I need a real invitation to hang up to remember things. That's half true. *I* don't need it. But FDH does not have FB, so if she wants him to remember things, he needs a visual reminder staring him in the face every day up to the day of.

She can be pissed. At some point, she's gonna have to realize that the world does not revolve around her and her kids, and just like she doesn't make it to everything, not everyone is always going to make it to her stuff, either. Better get used to it, snowflake. You are not as special to everyone else as you are to yourself.

Sunday we took the kids to the zoo for the Halloween events they had going on. My cousin's family has a membership, so they went along, my mom said she wanted to go, and my aunt and uncle went. I posted about it on FB and posted some pictures. Shortly after that, FDH mentions that BJ's party was yesterday and he forgot. I just nodded and said that is why I need a real invitation. (That's my story and I'm sticking to it). SD did make a comment on my post, but nothing snide. Must be she saw that we went to the zoo Sunday, got pissed off that daddy was doing something with the boys and me, and decided to make sure that he knew that while he was out enjoying his family at the zoo, he should feel like a pile of shit for forgetting BJ's bday the day before. How dare he have fun with us after missing that?

So transparent. The jealousy is blazing obvious. She wasted no time at all texting him about it AFTER seeing my post. I wonder why she didn't say something to him Saturday, when she questioned me? Because the anger that he would dare enjoy a day with his family was too much for her to resist trying to guilt him about it, I guess.

Well, either SD laid the guilt trip on thick or else FDH is just afraid of her wrath, because he said to me yesterday morning that he doesn't know what to do to make it up to her and DH that he missed BJ's bday. I told him the only thing he can do is get him a gift. ????? Why is this such an issue? You missed the party. BFD. You have chose to stay in bed all through your own son's bday party that was in your own damn house, could not be bothered to make a 2 minute appearance or anything, but now you have to "make it up to them"? Fuck that. Get the kid a present and call it good. Stop acting like you missed him being sworn in as president already!

I know I'm gonna catch hell from some posters for not reminding him. I don't give a shit. It is not my job to remind him of anything. Not my gskid, not my problem. I don't count on him to remind me of anything, because if something is important to me, I don't forget in the first place. I told him about it and I marked the calendar. That should have been enough. When he shows little to no regard for his own kids parties, I'm not gonna make his gkids party MY priority.