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Bradymom's picture

Submitted by Bradymom on Thu, 01/01/2015 - 11:29pm

My husband treats his kids like they're mentally retarded. It drives me nuts. For instance. We are doing a home project. His ten year old daughter is at our house. We have to run to the hardware store 2 blocks away. She's watching a movie. He tells he to put it on pause. She needs to come. Why??? She's ten. It's two blocks away. Really? There's no other kids at home. She's watching a movie. She's not a mischievous child. What the heck. This is just an example of one thing. It's constant. So. Annoying. I am always reminding him of their ages & what is normal for that age. :bangs head against wall:

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Fri, 01/02/2015 - 6:58am

I wouldn't leave a 10 year old home alone either. :? He sounds like a responsible dad to me. That is a good thing.

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Submitted by furkidsforme on Fri, 01/02/2015 - 7:20am

Hell, I could run to the barn outside and be longer than his trip to the store. I think kids learn confidence and independence in teeny tiny steps. This would have been a nice step. They would have been back in likely less than 5 minutes. What is she going to do in that time?

I would have felt OK leaving her if she is a mature 10 and a good kid in general, and if the idea didn;t freak her out.

I've had kids younger than 10 sleep in the barn (GASP!!!! WAY more than 2 blocks from the house!!!) doing foal watch. They sleep in the feed room, and wake to an alarm every hour to check the mare, and send me a text as I snooze in my bed. Farm kids do this all their life. They love it, it builds responsibility, and they are proud to be chosen for foal watch. They fight about it.

Edited to add: maybe this is part of why farm kids are always so much more responsible and independent??? No helicopter parents worrying about their snookums? And they actually get held to a standard and are accountable.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Fri, 01/02/2015 - 8:15am

I live in Brooklyn (Bed-Stuy ). I won't leave 10 year old home alone. However, I have no problem with a 10 year old riding city buses and/or subways to/from school alone.

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Submitted by furkidsforme on Fri, 01/02/2015 - 8:35am

Thats funny, because I'm 41 and public transportation FREAKS ME OUT. NYC's subway is truly terrifying.

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Submitted by ctnmom on Fri, 01/02/2015 - 11:39am

My middle one was a little adult when she was a kid. I could've run to the store no problem and she would've been fine. But it's like HR said- what if you got in a crash or something? Plus, we used to have this pervy weird kid who lived across the street from us- I didn't want her home alone because of him as well.

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Submitted by Journey1982 on Fri, 01/02/2015 - 10:20pm

Depends on where you live. In my area, you can leave an 8 year old home alone for a short period of time. I never left my kids alone until they were 12. When someone told me you can leave an 8 year old child alone, I asked a friend, who is a police officer, about it. He told me it was legal, but it's not a good idea because it could be considered border line neglect.