SS puked at school yesterday. When questioned by his stepdad (mom is deployed and he has her parenting time), SS mentioned that he had puked on Sunday when he was with us (he went back to them on Monday AM, without incident). SS did puke in the AM, and then played in the pool for hours, ate a decent lunch and a full (clean plate) dinner. There were no on-going issues, and therefore nothing to report to the stepdad.

But that didn't stop BM and stepdad from sending another e-mail admonishing DH for not letting him know that he puked *and* referring back to when SD was diagnosed with strep in March in an effort to make it look like DH is somehow neglecting the kids medical needs and not communicating with them about the kids' health.

Oh, and the stepdad referred to himself as the primary custodial parent of the kids.

So DH had to respond to the e-mail, both to smack down the parent comment, as well as to refute their BS medical neglect insinuations.

The piece I guess I'll never understand is why, when DH is honestly and genuinely trying to be a good parent to these kids, must BM criticize and second-guess *everything*? DH reliably pays CS as required and takes the kids for his portion of custody. Why does she treat him like a deadbeat? DH says it's because she hopes he'll go away (and still send $$), which is probably exactly on point, but I just don't get it.

I wouldn't even dream of treating my ex even half as bad as this woman treats him. Our daughter is terrified of him because of what a jerk he is, and he's completely irresponsible to boot, but I would never treat him like he's nothing like this woman does.