Two weeks into the school year and SS13 is missing 4 assignments. DH had a long talk with him last night and explained that if the school work doesn't improve SS13 will lose karate classes and be put back on the ADD med. DH is giving SS13 till 10/1 to make improvements at school.

DH called BM last night and ripped into her asking her WTF is up with SS13 missing assignments as SS13 had been with her last weekend. BM said it was just the start of the school year and that DH should calm down and give SS13 time to get settled. DH is frustrated he can see us being in the same cycle with SS13 as last year. DH gets him caught up on our time and BM lets him fall behind on her time.

I know as an 8th grader SS13 should be way more independent than he is and I feel like we're in a catch-22 - part of me wants to let it go and have SS13 face the consequences i.e. failing 8th grade. The other part of me wants to help him succeed but it's nearly impossible because we don't have him full time.

DH and I spent most of the evening with SS13 helping him stay on task and get homework done. We also worked with him to organize his homework and handouts, and clean up his backpack.

DH e-mailed SS13's teachers this morning and explained the plan to them.

And so it goes....

Edit to Add: BM e-mailed the teacher this afternoon about SS13's missing assignments. The Teacher responded to BM's e-mail but not DH's (BM forwarded the teachers reply to DH), I hate the mommy bias.

~BettyRay