Self-reflection

In the last year or two I have slowly let myself go (put on a few extra pounds, just haven't had the motivation to follow through on a beauty regime and don't have that spark to do things). It's like I've lost a bit if who I used to be.

I work from home so I am in sweats/yoga pants all day with my hair in a pony and no makeup. I don't have the routine of having to "get ready" and going into the office every day. I love working from home and not having the office politics/drama is less stressful but I'm not feeling motivated.

Yesterday I did some self-reflecting. I know what I need and want to do to get my true self back but I lack in follow through. DH is not the motivating type so I can't rely on him to do this with me. I just don't have anyone who will hold me accountable and not let me talk myself out of doing the work.

Any suggestions/blogs/apps/etc to help keep me on track to meet my goals?

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Do you have money to spend,

Do you have money to spend, just for yourself? My DH and I set up our finances so that we each have spending money every month. Not a huge amount, enough to go out for coffee and pay for haircuts and little 'spoiling yourself' purchases. But for several years I barely spent any of it. I got my new laptop and I think maybe once I got socks.

So about a year, year-and-a-half ago I made a promise to myself to start spending that money on myself. I would book myself into my salon about every 6 weeks, sometimes I'd just book the time and decide later what I would have done. Hair cut, colour, pedicure, massage, facial, whatever.

I need to get back on track with that too, my stylist left and I wasn't happy with the other one (her colour was good, but not the cut). And now my hair is not looking good, and I'm not feeling as confident in how I look.

Also, I bought new bras. Man, does that change things!

DH and I get a few bucks to

DH and I get a few bucks to from each paycheck that is our own to spend however we want. I do find that I don't buy much but do get a few things for myself.

I used to be a hairstylist so I am very picky about my hair and end up doing it myself because I'm just not happy when someone else does it.

I have gift certificate for a massage but just talk myself out of using it whenever I decide I'll use.

Ugh...

Just call right now and make

Just call right now and make an appointment. DO IT! DO IT! DO IT!

Really, the best advice I ever read was about managing stress, and the guy said he books his next vacation the week he comes home from the current one. That way, no matter how stressed he gets, he's got something to look forward to.

I like that attitude, and it did/does help me when it comes to those 'indulging' myself appointments. Not as much for forward-moving things, like eating better or working out, because those take more energy investment and sometimes I have big plans and no energy. I might not have the energy to work out, but I can show up for a massage, you know? (I have a host of chronic health issues, so day-to-day energy can be a challenge.)

I just need someone or

I just need someone or something for a few weeks to make sure I'm doing what I need to. Once I have a routine I usually am able to stick with but still need an occasional check in.

If you like your gym, hire a

If you like your gym, hire a trainer. You can get a package of say... 5 sessions. Go 2x week, 1x with the trainer, 2nd time on your own. Explain you need motivation and encouragement.

I've thought about going

I've thought about going ahead and putting on a a little makeup and at least jeans so I don't let myself feel like a slob. Sometimes my outward appearance guides my mood.

i just put some makeup on

i just put some makeup on
thinking about letting my hair down too!

i'm right there with you.

i'm right there with you. great ideas, shitty execution.

i rarely wear makeup or jewelry, and my hair is usually put up wet in a bun. there's other self-care things that i've let fall by the wayside too.

i know i'm not helping, but just wanted you to know u're not alone. other people have gotten to that point too.

I just downloaded the app.

I just downloaded the app. Will give it a go. Thanks!

well I'm on a low carb diet

well I'm on a low carb diet and I found this awesome group on facebook and we hold each other accountable.

I work from home. I get up

I work from home. I get up and get dressed for the office. Then I pass into my home office and work like a maniac. As long as my work clothes are on, I'm on the clock. When I'm ready to call it a day, I can take my skirt off and relax. And do not go back into the home office till the next work day.

BTW, step life is a whole different ball game and it does sap my verve resulting in some of the exact same things you started your post out with.

I'm thinking I need to get

I'm thinking I need to get ready for work just like I would if I was going into the office. (Office attire is jeans so won't be a huge stretch other than putting on makeup.)

I noticed that this started when step things got really stressful for me. Now that things are getting better I'm hoping I can become re-energized.

Put on a couple pieces of

Put on a couple pieces of jewelry or some nice shoes or something, too. Anything you can take off when you decide you are done working for the day. I think our brains need that tangible gesture to get from home phase to work phase and back. You'll be surprised at how much this simple technique can do for working it at home.

As for steplife -- yeah, that's why I am here -- no answers.

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