Just when you think
I guess DH called Puke last night and BM announced to Puke while on the phone with DH that she has planned her Christmas with her kids the same weekend that Puke was supposed to come to DH's. This means that Puke will not be here for my family's Christmas.
Looking like DH may be going to get Puke on Christmas eve night. He originally told Puke he'd come get her Christmas morning to which I told him that I am not happy about that as I would like to he able to spend all day Christmas with him.
I'm so glad I get to live my life with my husband on Puke and BM's schedule. I will say DH apologized profusely to me because I have to deal with this. That seemed to make him even more angry with BM.
Oh I almost forgot. DH wants to have a Christmas dinner since Puke will be here. I will not be making said dinner.
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deleted, I am so sorry I responded to Sally here somehow.
Too late. BM has had control
Too late. BM has had control since I've been in the picture and Puke took control a few years ago. DH gave it to them and is too broken to take it back.
I'm of the mind that if Puke
I'm of the mind that if Puke wants to come she'll figure it out on DH's schedule. I'm not sure that Puke is not in cahoots with BM on this so she doesn't have to be here for my family's Christmas.
The problem is that he
The problem is that he assumes Puke will be here a certain time instead of finding out for sure when she will he here. I would say to BM when dropping Puke off with BM, ok so next visit is such and such day, agreed? Then when she plans something on that weekend you say to her, we agreed on this weekend so I guess you'll have to figure it out cuz I'll be picking Puke up.
When it comes to Puke, plans(if any) are very loose cuz this is typical. Either Puke doesn't want to come or she does and BM plans something.
I just don't care if or when
I just don't care if or when she comes anymore. Unless it interferes with my holidays. Before I wouldn't have said anything about him being gone Christmas morning but this isn't just about him and Puke. He is MY husband and I deserve to spend all day Christmas with him if I want.
In this case the parent
In this case the parent should actually parent. They should hand the CO to the kid and tell the kid to show it to their employer. The kid should let the boss know he/she is scheduled to visit dad XYZ dates.
If the boss the schedule in advance, he/she would not mind scheduling work shifts around the CO.
The parent should make sure the kid understand that visiting dad and working are NOT choices. However, hanging out friends is. If something has to be cut out of the kid's busy life, it will time with friends, NOT dad.
Please stop with the
Please stop with the accusations. No one here has the right to openly judge or doubt anyone's story here. If you don't believe her, don't read it and don't comment.
Admin has specifically mentioned this many times....no calling people liars or "crew".
And no.....I'm not one of the ppl who complained about the swearing, I'm in the trucker/sailor group.
Yes there is a court order
Yes there is a court order but Puke lives 4 hours away so what worked when she was 30 minutes away doesn't work now.
This whole thing doesn't surprise me. It's normal. I just refuse to loose time on Christmas with my DH to accommodate Puke and BM's schedule. DH can figure it out with them.
So why doesn't he go back to
So why doesn't he go back to court and get a new CO that works with the 4 hour distance between the two of them?
Puke doesn't want to come
Puke doesn't want to come more than a few days at a time. A week is pushing it. She has no job or activities she has to go to. She just can't be away from her friends for that long.