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Her visits are getting shorter and shorter...

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Wed, 02/03/2016 - 9:26am

BM decided she wanted to pick SS up twice this week. Monday and Tuesday are her "normal days" this week. Monday SS has baseball practice at 4, so he needed to be home to get ready for that. So she picked him up from school, spent an hour with him and brought him home. Yesterday she wanted to keep him until 8. She picked him up from school, then text me an hour later and asked if she could drop him off at my office at 4. Yup, of course. I leave work at 4, so I pulled out of my parking lot a minute or two after she did. I don't think she noticed this. I had to go get gas so I was headed in a direction that is not toward home. I ended up behind her at a stop light. SS says "guess she's going to meth man's house". Smart kid. She lives in the opposite direction (at least her last known address is in the opposite direction) only 2 possibilities in the direction she was headed... the mall, and meth man's house. Something tells me she wasn't headed to purchase herself a super cute new outfit. **eyeroll**. So... SS is very aware that his mom dropped him off after an less than 2 hours of seeing him, and went to go see meth man.

So that's a total of ALMOST 3 hours this week. She did see him 2 consecutive days which hasn't happened in a VERY long time, but they totaled less than her normal 4 hour visit. She can just go now. That would be fine.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Wed, 02/03/2016 - 11:07am

I hope you are right! I think she said something to him at her visit last week about him not responding to her texts or calling her back because they have had a little more contact that way this past week. And it's a good thing that he is respectful enough to respond to his mom, even if he is not ok with the way she is living. She is still his mom and he is only 12 year old. We don't interfere and I'm not by any means going to tell him that he HAS to talk to her if he doesn't want to, but if she actually "played mom" for a minute and had a talk with him about it, then I am glad he is respecting that.

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Wed, 02/03/2016 - 11:30am

I love hate your updates if you know what I mean. Poor boy. It's things like this that makes me glad that SS4 is still to young to know when his mom is ditching him with her mom to go out. He once told me he stayed with his MeMe because she had to go to work...at night. Ugh. I was really hoping that after she heard him so happy and singing the other night to you, she would fix herself.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Wed, 02/03/2016 - 12:12pm

I know exactly what you mean, because that is exactly how I feel about the whole thing. I love that he's seeing her for who she is on his own... but I HATE that it is like this for him.

This woman is not capable of cleaning up. I know that sounds harsh, but she just isn't. She hasn't followed through on ANYTHING she has ever started. Well, except being a junkie. She's pretty determined to be THAT for the rest of her life. She has her brief moments of "I want to be a mom", but they fade really fast.