Good: both SDs flatly refused to help clear the dinner table last night. I said nothing to them after dinner but asked DP to make sure the table was cleared and cleaned. DP asked nicely and again and again. Then he flat out demanded and made sure as heck it happened. Good for him. I think he may have even called them spoiled (although he's not sure HOW they got that way...). So win on disengagement it keeps working.

Bad: SD12 keeps not locking front door. DP is on her about it but nothing is resolved. We got into it a few nights ago and I told him I was not going to discuss it with him again. He had freaked over the cost of auto locks which is him only other option. I asked SD12 last night if she locked the front door when she leaves, "yes, all the time." Well I had startled her last night as front door was not locked and she didn't hear me come in....which actually freaked her out a little. So I was home from work today and SD12 didn't know. I heard her leave and not lock the door. She comes home and uses her key. She's surprised to see me. We chat a bit and then I tell her, "you didn't lock that door when you left and you didn't know I was here." SD, "I was running late." Me, "that's what you say every time." SD, "but I was!" Me, "I don't care. It takes 5 seconds to lock it. Figure it out because it can't continue."

A little later...Me, "Hey, didn't you have track?" SD, "I quit." Me, "Of course you did." I go back to what I was doing. Two weeks, $250 of gear. All on DP. I predicted it. It's why I don't pay for anything at all. DP never told me either, I won't say a word.

Vacation 2 days.