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Submitted by Amcc13 on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 2:05pm

Partner let sd sit in front of the car today in the passenger seat. Sd is 7 going on 8. She has been trying to get in for a while but hadn't so far. I am in work so only heard about it over phone.
Does this scream mini - wife to anyone else or am I just being over sensitive ???

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Submitted by Aeron on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 2:21pm

I can't say it screams mini wife to me - most kids I know we're super eager to be up front, always caused fights in my family when there was only one parent around. It never made us think we were the adults or the equals of our parents, it was just a privilege we wanted.

It does however make me wonder about your husband's sense - what are the laws in your state, what is her size? Kids are supposed to be at least 4'9" to be up front because of proper seat belt fit and then there's the question of the airbag.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 10:18pm

You know darn well that kid should have been running alongside the car while dad drove.

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Submitted by Amcc13 on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 2:51pm

Here provided they are using a booster seat they can sit up front over a certain height and weight.
So safety wise it's okay. Well according to law anyway - I would not myself put anyone less than 13+ in front
Maybe it is over reaction in my part - just didn't sit right with me *shrugs* meh it's been a long day

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Submitted by notarelative on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 3:45pm

Your SD is at the age that kids want to ride in the front. My SGD is the same age.

SGD rides in the front seat with her dad, but not her mom. Dad says it's ok as it is not against the law. Mom says it's not safe in her car.

A few months ago my SD and the kids were at the house. DH went to get the booster seat for her younger brother and SGD says she can ride in the front seat now. I tell her you can ride wherever your parents let you when they are driving their car, but in my car (the one they are taking to get the pizza) you need to ride in the backseat.

Grandfather comes with the booster and they go out get in the car. I look out the window as they are backing out and there she is in the front seat. I quickly go out the door and wave at H to stop them. I open the door and say 'what did I just tell you'. SGD gets out of the front and into the back.

When they got in the car SGD told H, who had not heard my conversation with SGD, that dad lets her ride in the front so he thought it was ok.

Wanting to ride in the front seat is a big thing at this age. It's become a rite of passage. It's not mini wife unless she is in the front and you are in the back.

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Submitted by GoingWicked on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 3:54pm

He's an idiot, just like my DH was an idiot doing the same thing, putting his daughters wants (to feel grown up) over her needs (safety). If there's an accident and something happens to SD while sitting in the front seat, when there's a back seat available, he may even face jail time.

SD would try to start fights, and tell me, "DH lets me sit in the front, and that's not safe." Sure kid, like your fighting it. I put her on ignore, she sat in the back when riding with me.

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Submitted by Amcc13 on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 6:34pm

She does all other things bar the kissing thing
I am grateful not to have that
I agree it would be creepy

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Submitted by Amcc13 on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 6:38pm

I think any of my previous posts would stand to reason that I am not a hateful person
And I think many of them would stand to show that sd is spoilt and bratty with many other mini wife traits
When one deals with an sd with many mini wife traits it is hard not to start to put everything in the same box
I recognise this and came here for clarity not for bashing

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Submitted by kathc on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 9:26pm

I hate that my skid sits in the front seat because it's "mine" but he knows better than to try it when I'm there so I don't waste my time worrying about him sitting there when I'm not. The only thing was he would adjust the seat and it made it uncomfortable for me and I'd have to spend five minutes getting it "just right" (bad back) so I told him he may sit there when I'm not in the car but the seat is not to be adjusted. He can use it just fine the way it is.