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Submitted by UglySM on Tue, 05/31/2016 - 7:54pm

Hi there! So I'm new to this site. Was told about this site by a friend of mine. Heard it's a place to vent, and get advice and tips, and to know I'm not alone. My SS is almost 15 and recently got in trouble for having bad grades, and now doesn't want to come to our house. His mom isn't backing up my DH. My DH sets rules and gives punishment, where as my ss mother doesn't. So of course ss doesn't want to come over anymore. I'm kind of happy but sad cause my dh is upset about it. I love the kid, I like the kid but if he never came over again I wouldn't mind one bit. Does that make me a bad person?

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Submitted by UglySM on Tue, 05/31/2016 - 8:12pm

Yeah I hate having to care for a child that's not mine. It's just my own issues I guess. He's a great kid, he doesn't bother, but just knowing he's there and me and my dh can't just come and go as we please. We only get him on weekends, I work all week a day want my weekends free. So if mom wants him all the time then be my guest. She's never home anyways so it's a win win for SS. When he does come over, I drink a whole bottle of crown and I become mother of the year lol not really the whole bottle.

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Submitted by notasm3 on Tue, 05/31/2016 - 8:32pm

I am SO thankful that my SS is 30 years old. I don't ever have to see him. No obligation whatsoever to have him in my home. It's lovely. I honestly do not care when this POS is homeless, etc.

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Submitted by UglySM on Tue, 05/31/2016 - 9:14pm

Glad it got better for you. I sometimes wish my SS was a girl lol. Might be easier for me to enjoy my time with her, since I know what girls like. But don't want to deal the divaness yikes

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Submitted by UglySM on Tue, 05/31/2016 - 9:07pm

Thanks guys. Your comments really do make me feel better. sheesh thought I was the only one that felt this way.

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Submitted by UglySM on Tue, 05/31/2016 - 9:10pm

So my SS and his evil bitch of a mother want to meet Friday at Starbucks to "talk" and EBM thinks it's just going to be them 3, LMAO she'll be shocked when I show up. We're married now and living my house, I think I have every right to be there, rigjt?

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Submitted by UglySM on Tue, 05/31/2016 - 9:18pm

Cool thank you. I'm not a mean person. My hubby wants me there for support and as a witness. If we tell her I'm going, they may cancel or she may invite her family member. They're just as dumb if they think she's doing the right thing. Her older son, who's from a different guy, is 22, lives at home with her still and never graduated, no GED, no job, all cause she didn't discipline him and his grandmother raised him. We don't want the Kid to turn out like that.

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Submitted by Teas83 on Tue, 05/31/2016 - 10:31pm

I don't think you're a bad person. I feel the similar, although I wouldn't say I love or even like my SD. I would be totally fine if I never saw her again.