Yes, he doesn't sound like he has the guts to come out and say it but I would view "be there as a friend" and "we are now friends" very much as the marriage is over. Sorry. You'll be okay.

Basically he was saying, "I don't love you anymore but I also don't want to hurt you." Honey, you are going to make it through this. Stay in therapy and keep your friends close. I'm so sorry, sweetie.

Ram, you need to sit down and ask him those questions, if you had ppd with your bs, and he was prepared for it again then he has no excuses. when you got married and said those vows did he not mean what he said, is he only going to be with you when your healthy? maybe he isn't strong enough to help someone through sickness. don't jump to conclusions, but sit down and make him spell it out. it will hurt but then you aren't jumping through hoops, make plans to take care of you and learn a lesson from who you can count on when times are tough. ppd is difficult, but it isn't like you are trying to hurt them on purpose.

I am so sorry, but it sounds like it is over.

You really need to go no contact. You drop off and pick up baby in a neutral place. You know you are not going to move on this way. He has given no indication that he wants to be with you as a family or as a couple.

It is not the tutor or any other woman. He is probably having an intimate relationship with someone. It doesnt matter who, because who knows what he is telling them. That you are depressed, you hate his kids, etc etc.

I am not trying to be harsh, but you need to pick yourself back up. Not for him, but for you and the baby. Accept that it is over. He may be a coward for not coming out and just ending it. But you need to finish it by getting a divorce, custody arrangement, and child support order. You need to finish it by moving on with your life.

I see this a bit differently. I think you are in the moment right now and cannot see the forest from the trees. You banned his son from your home. You made him choose and he chose to have two happy homes instead of one miserable one. He was willing to work on it through counseling and because you didn't get what you wanted when you wanted it, you told him YOU thought the marriage was over. You have him and everyone else around you on a merry-go-round.

He just told you he loved you. He loves you. He told you he would meet with ss and the tutor in a public place and apologized to you for making you feel the way you feel. It sounds to me like he is honestly trying. It is not going to happen overnight.

You have made it very difficult for him to live with you and keep his children in his life. I have to respect a man that doesn't give up on his kids because his new wife says so.

Right now you are going through ppd. You need to take care of yourself before you can even think of trying to get him back into the house. Give it a little bit of time and then, if you still feel the way you do about wanting to try to make it work, ask him to continue to go to counseling. You need to work towards reunification. Things are still raw right now for both of you.

If you want straight answers, you will have to ask him bluntly what he wants and what he means.

I really dislike vague answers, so I'd be very exact in asking him wtf he is talking about.

Sorry to be so blunt with you, just aggravated by such spineless men right now.

Any “man” that would leave a woman in the throes of PPD is a piece of shit in my book. Skid was a little rough with her weeks old baby…and damn…the skid fed KITTENS to a snake. I don’t care what anyone says…that was creepy ass wrong and illegal. You can’t feed kittens to pitbulls so I am sure it is also illegal for them to be fed to snakes. GAG.

Anywho…the man is a shit. His kid is a creep and she has PPD. He is a worm for doing this to her. She is not blameless but he is a loser that runs as soon as it gets hard.

It IS ILLEGAL. I don’t care who you think you talked to but you cannot just feed kittens to other animals. It is totally against the law. Can’t believe you are still trying to push the idea it is legal.

She is struggling with PPD so yes…she is irrational and doing stupid things at the moment. So glad your PPD was soooooo easy on you. It is not that way for everyone. Which leads me to believe you did not really have PPD. If you did you would not make such an asinine statement about how you did not do the things OP did while you had PPD, so SHE must be wrong. SMH.

Ram, please, please, please make an appointment with your OB/Gyn and a psychiatrist. PPD is serious and you are very ill.

The folks on this site are not able to help you. I am appalled at how mean some have been to you.

Your SS is a horror- there is no way to justify what he did to those poor kittens. Do NOT go to the therapist who thought that was OK.

Get yourself well. Then go see an attorney. You should be getting way more than 100 a week in CS. You probably should be getting alimony once divorced and at this time, temporary alimony (meaning he pays all of the household bills for you).

Good luck to you- you have been dealt a raw hand right now. It will get better and someday you will be glad to be rid of both DH and especially SS. For now, focus on you and your baby and get an awesome attorney and get what you deserve financially.

Some men are just aholes. My BFF married a divorced man who slept with all of his friends' wives. Such integrity. :sick: She was young and had never had a real boyfriend before.

They had a 5 year old and a 6 month old when she came home one day and discovered that he had moved out - no warning whatsoever. It turns out he'd had a girlfriend before, during and after his marriage (of course the wife of one of his "friends")