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Update to SD15 trying to crash my dd's birthday party.

Silent14's picture

Submitted by Silent14 on Fri, 07/21/2017 - 12:13pm

Quick recap: Last weekend SD15 was scheduled to go home Friday. She found out about my dd14's bday party planned for Saturday, and informed DH she was staying until Monday because she needed to spend more time with daddy.

So everything went as planned. DH took her to dinner and the movies. They left before DD14's friends arrived and returned after the party was over. I wasn't there when DH shared the plan with SD15 so I'm unsure of her reaction. DH didn't mention anything about her being upset and her attitude seemed fine when they left for their "date". Seemed like it was a win for everyone.

The next day she stayed in her room most of the day and didn't hang out with anyone (including DH). This is pretty typical for her and she seemed to have an ok attitude when she did come out of her room. She spent Zero time with DH on Sunday.

She is supposed to be coming back today for normal scheduled visitation. She has already called DH to tell him she doesn't want to come this week. She then proceeded to try to negotiate leaving early mid-way through the week. When that didn't work, she tried to argue that it isn't her normal schedule time.

So that's that. I'm still just as confused as ever about her motives. She wants more time with daddy. She doesn't want any time with daddy. She really just wants whatever benefits her the most as the moment. Teenagers are a pain in the ass!

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Jlbfinch's picture

Submitted by Jlbfinch on Fri, 07/21/2017 - 12:41pm

She might have been running a little scheme to get out of today's visitation by staying longer last time. Like, "I really want to do such-and-such other thing next week instead of going to dads. Maybe if I stay extra this weekend he'll say yes."

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Submitted by steppingback on Fri, 07/21/2017 - 12:57pm

She couldn't figure a way to attend the party without exposing her true intention to dh and losing credibility. Or for all you know she did try to get back for the party and DH is covering for her. Either way it was a success all around.

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Fri, 07/21/2017 - 1:30pm

It could also be that BM's house has nothing going for her so she tried to make her way into the party but when her dad didn't give her the option, she still opted for the day out with dad (spending money on her) instead of going back to BMs where she probably would have just stayed locked up in her room like she does at your house.