I get to see my grand daughter finally!!!

I don't post much because I get called names but I read here every day. I just wanted to share some good news. My son and his hateful wife - my sd - are getting divorced!! He caught her cheating with someone she goes to school with and left her. He gets the baby every other weekend and at nights when sd is in school. On the weekends he brings her to my house and I get to see her. I am paying for a mens rights attorney to help fight for his legal right to be in her life and have as much say as she does. I don't need advice I just wanted to share my good fortune to now be allowed in my grand daughters life.

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Your son marred his step

Your son marred his step sister? How long were they siblings? My son and SO's daughter are the same age and I always worried about that but thankfully it never happened. My son doesn't want much to do with her.

Yeah he married her but they

Yeah he married her but they weren't in the same house from 12 on because sd was violent. Sd then told bs I was a mean and horrible person and I can't be near their baby. I missed everything while her mom got to be involved. That won't happen now because I am getting the best attorney money can buy and I won't stop till bs has as much rights as she does.

You're celebrating a divorce

You're celebrating a divorce because now you get what you want.

As a mother, I would be sad that my son's marriage was falling apart. I would be angry because the person he clearly loved hurt him. I would be sad that grandchild would now be caught in a tug of war between her parents.

Enjoy your grandchild. Just

Enjoy your grandchild. Just know, you've got 18yrs ahead of you to keep that lawyer on speed dial...angry BM's never get tired of defying COs, finding loose language and taking advantage of loopholes. When called out, they are barely scolded by court and off and running again.

Since exDIL/SD hates your guts and now your son's too, life will be drama filled and costly. Try and keep the adult ins and outs separate and away from the child.

I think the judges will be

I think the judges will be rolling their eyes purely on the step-siblings getting married and having a child, period.

It's a unique situation, for certain... judges mught be more sympathetic to op due to it, too

What I meant by that is that

What I meant by that is that because they're so closely tangled up in family dynamics that they may look to the family dynamics AS the issue. Given that OP kicked out SD, then SD essentially made sure to keep the kid away from OP...judges may see this as "family drama" more than your average divorce / custody proceedings...and roll their eyes at the issues because of that.

This isn't just a divorce/custody issue... it's a family dispute. Step siblings married each other. SD is pissed at SM. That's what it may amount to, in the eyes of the judge.

whether the judge holds OP

whether the judge holds OP and her DH responsible for DS and SD getting together or not shouldn't matter - because this SHOULD be about the mom and dad's divorce/custody.... bringing the fact that husband and wife are also siblings by their parents' marriage should have ZERO effect on custody.

But... the judge likely will keep it in their mind, just because it's so "different" of a situation you normally see.

I would suspect that no judge worth their salt would actually MENTION the fact they're related by marriage before marriage to the courtroom, though, other than to say that it has no bearing on the case... because it's about THE CHILD and not THE FAMILY.

Who knows. Staying tuned.

um, we're saying the same

um, we're saying the same thing??? lol I'm not drinking anything from HR's stand

I wrote that if the judge holds the parents responsible (as per hr's post), they wouldn't be worth their salt for mentioning it in any way other than that it has no bearing on the case...because it's about the child not about the family... that it should have zero effect.....

Maybe the confusing part would be when I wrote that the judge might keep the fact that they're steps in mind simply because it's so strange of a situation?

ahh I see. It might come

ahh I see.

It might come up... because the DIL might bring it up... and if she does, that's when (I think) the judges might roll their eyes and claim "family drama".

It would be a nice slap in the face to DIL if the judges tell her to keep the family drama out of the courtroom, that this isn't about who she married, but rather, whether she's fit to parent... lol

100% right.

Throwing something at someone

Throwing something at someone with the intent of hitting them is cause for an assault charge, where I'm from... a few years ago my son spit on someone, in return for having been spit on as well as kicked in the leg... and my son had to have a "talk" with a police officer at the school as well as a suspension from school.

OP did not say she is

OP did not say she is caregiver of child. Her son brings the baby over on weekend and she gets to see the baby.

Pitching a stepkid out of her home at a child reflects no incapableness towards the woman babysitting for a few hours here and there even if the son steps out.

The SD and her stepbrother (OP's son) had no contact for years and years. Nothing inappropriate. Nothing improper nor illegal about dating and marrying someone non-biologically related.

You're grasping at straws here, HRNYC. Op may have made rash decisions and booted out a kid who she feared would do physical harm to a toddler, but she has nothing on her record/history to indicate she is unfit to care for a baby or have afternoon visits in her home. No law says BM must approve of baby's acquaintances.

SD's BM (the baby's maternal grandmother) raised a physically violent kid (SD), does that mean the baby's father can block the maternal GMa from seeing the baby? Per you, its the same line of reasoning. Maternal GMa didn't stop her daughter from dating nd marrying her stepbrother. Oh nooooos. Some judge may say neither grandma should be anywhere near this baby *rolls eyes*