My husband continually does "favors" for his exwife and I can't seem to get him to understand that it is not his job to rescue her anymore. I am so frustrated because he tells me that he only does stuff for her because of his children. However, her latest request was for us to keep her dog while she is on vacation. First of all, I have a cat that has never been around dogs, so that concerns me. Secondly, the dog is old, sheds alot and smells. Long story short, I don't want the dog in my house for a week. At first he argue's with me stating that he would only do it because it's the kid's dog and so basically he's doing it for them. Apparently she doesn't want to put the dog at a kennel because it cost too much. So, after I put my foot down and told him "NO WAY". What does he do but ask his sister if she can take the dog while his ex is on vacation. Okay, fine even though I'm still annoyed at this point because I once again do not understand why he is making this his problem. At this point, I inquire if she will be dropping the dog off or is he expected to do it. He says that he is not doing it and guesses she will make plans to take care of it. So what do I find out last night, yep, you guessed it...he's picking the dog up from her house and taking it to his sister's for her. Mind you, this is not just down the street, it's 12 miles out of his way just to go to his sister's house and that doesn't even take into account driving over to the ex's house to pick the dog up. He had no reason to go to her house, as he picks the kids up directly from daycare. However, he informed me last night that he had to go to her house anyway to pick up a bag for the boys so what was the big deal. Well, after being a single parent myself for 10 years, I know darn well how easy it is to just pack a bag and leave it at daycare for dad to pickup. So that excuse just doesn't hold water for me. So I guess my question to all of you is, am I just being insecure? Should I just let it drop and quit making a fuss about him constantly allowing her to schedule his time? Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated...I am just so mad right now.

I have been married for 4 months now to a man that I have been with for almost 4 yrs...We moved in with eachother right away he has a 9 yr old daughter and I have a 3 almost 4 yr old little boy. I have been with my husband since my son was about 4 months old my sons father is not in the picture at all and never has been my husband has been a wonderful fater to my son he really does treat him as if he was his own child...My issue comes with his daughter and her mother he was with this woman off and on for about 5 yrs they can not get along at all so I can see why they are no longer together, this woman is jeckel and hyde all the way...I have gone through tons of crap with this situation for the first 6 months of us living together she called him on his cell non stop all hours of the day and night just to say what are you doing, this went on until one night me and my husband went to a midnight ski she blew his phone up I finally asked him who keeps calling he said his ex I then told him that it was getting old I could understand if it was about his daughter but it never had anything to do with her...He did address the situation told her that she does not need to call unless it was about their kid she is so petty that we didn't see his daughter for 2 months (he does not have any legal vistitation but he does pay cs) the phone calls pretty much stopped but I dealt with him giving her money behind my back to pay for medication for her other child who does not belong to him..almost a year into the relationship I finally met her face to face at a school function for their daughter she was surprisingly very nice, life went on he still continued to deal with her and I stayed out of she would get angry and call and leave messgages on our machine cussing him out...Finally because they could not talk with out screaming at eachother I began dealing with her I would pick up and drop off his daughter I dealt with her when she called believe it or not things started looking up she was finally in a relationship with a good guy and she was some what easy to deal with she has never really had an attitude to me or shall I say directly to my face...things seemed so good that we invited her and her bf to our wedding in May they came gave us a nice gift and a very sweet card...and we have spent some time together this summer her bf and one of my good friends live in the same apt complex so we would be at the pool together sometimes things were fine she was friendly, My husband and I even took her other kid with me for the weekend several times...I thought this was going to be a healthy coparenting situation...until she just starting acting like a bitch again..she all of the sudden only wants to speak to my husband she has not stated that exactly but one night they were having a conversation about his daughter coming with us for labor day and she said "I always have to talk to your wife and so does your daughter" she gave him a guilt trip about not spending a whole lot of time with their daughter this summer although truth be told the last 5 or 6 weekends we were supposed to get her she decided she did not want to come and her being 9 its pretty normal for her to want to be where the fun is and unfortunately we have put our selves on a strict budget (trying to save for house). So my husband being the push over that he is fell for this guilt trip and got all bummed out until I quickly reminded him of each weekend we were supposed to get her...the other recent thing was school clothes in the middle of the summer I asked the mother if she was going to need help with clothes for my sd she said no Im only buying her a few things b/c she has tons of clothes I said ok but if you need help with supplies or something let me know...needless to say she waited untill 4 days before school started and called my husband demanding he buy school clothes once again I feel like when she came at him with a bad attitude he should have told her to shove it but he would never do that so since we were in a financial situation with both our vehicles needing extensive work go figure..I always fix things I called my mother and asked her to help out she said that was fine however it would be the night of the first day of school as she had plans for the weekend so b/c I did not want my sd to start school in old clothes I sent home a brand new outfit for her to wear...(that I know I will never see again so) Monday August 28 I met my mother to go shopping for school clothes we got 4 or 5 new outfits and later that night I called the ex to see if she wanted to meet me to pick up clothes, no response so I just went home normally I would have driven out of my to take the clothes to her but since she has been a real pill lately I did not feel the need to go the extra mile, Im sick of doing everything to help her out I have done more than enough alot more than normal people would in this situation...so Tuesday rolls around and my sd calls her dad to ask about the clothes he told her that we got the clothes but b/c our truck needed ball joints he did not want to drive anymore than he had to and asked her mother to meet him to pick up clothes once again she was wretched she said Im not f$%&ing meeting anyone any f*&^ing place so he just told his daugher that she could take her clothes home with her after her weekend visit...so I guess she didn't need the clothes as badly as her mother made it seem once again she won she demanded something and we jumped to save an arguement, but thats my issue I am so sick of being told what to do and when to do it by this ungrateful control freak she should thank her lucky stars that we help out as much as we do the only thing we have to do is pay cs and medical insurance in which we do...So yesterday we open the mail only to find a child support modification request she is trying to get more money out of my husband I guess she thinks that now that we are married that the state will give her more money which bothers me not because of the money but because she lives at home with her parents and she filed bankruptcy last year so the only bills she has is car payment and car insurance she and her mother have both told me this..and if we want to be technical we pay her car payment with child support, so I was furious because she didn't even bother telling my husband that she was requesting more money and he called and asked her and of course she denied it she played stupid as if she did not know what he was talking about but she was real quick to tell him that she just paid for glasses for their daughter in which was a year over due...and if she would have done what she was supposed to do last summer she would not have had such an expense...at this point my husband is defending her stating maybe she did not do a request but I know that since our states is so far behind on child support cases they did not automatically request a review...I have been dealing with child support issues for my son for 3 yrs now and still have not got anywhere...The funny thing about the whole thing is she does not know that my husband is currently unemployed so it may come back and bite her in the butt it may stay the same but since she makes more money than she did 3 yrs ago it may drop...and I can't help but want to say haha...I know I may sound petty but this situation is on my last nerve I need some advise I am so sick of being the bigger person at this point I don't want to help her out anymore than what is required by law....we do continue to supply everthing for my sd here at our house...I guess I feel a little stupid b/c I have tried to help her, I have argued with my husband on her behalf, I have taken her other kid to give her a break, I have dropped everything I was doing on many occassions to pick up or drop off their daughter, I have even driven out of my way at times to meet her with a swimsuit or pair of shoes that my sd has left here and wanted right then, I have defened her to my inlaws and my husband, I felt sorry for her b/c she is a single mom who appeared to be doing the right thing for her kids...HELP...Im ready to throw in the towel there are many more issues, I could go on and on and before anyone says that I knew all this before I married my husband No before we got married things were different We all got along for over a year before we got married as a matter of fact we were engaged for a year before I started planning b/c I was unsure if I could handle all the baggage that came along with him I love my husband very much and I love my sd very much but I did not bargin for all this I feel like Im married to the whole damn bunch his ex and her family yeah they involved too..as a matter of fact just the other day the ex's dad called my husband to invite him to a beatles cover band concert which to me is strange b/c although they were once close, they have not really talked for the past 2 yrs and my husband is not some die hard beatles fan or anything...My husband thinks Im crazy he says I put too much thought into things he refuses to see that they like to cause issues....he honestly believes that they are just so nice but he didn't seem to think so when I was talking to his ex and her family he told me that I would soon see how vendictive they all were I guess he was right but whats good for the goose is good for gander....once again HELP>>>

Hi, wow, this seems like a good place for me, I am all confused about my bf relationship with his ex. They are friends for 14/15 years and have been dating I think for about one year. He is in the military and back then he got deployed to Iraq and she cheated on him with a guy that is now her husband. Nevertheless back then he still wanted to marry her after he got back from his deployement, but she said no again. After that he broke it off with her and only one month later he got with me. I didnt know it was only month before that they broke up. Well on and off during our relationship they were in contact and he kept telling me that he still loves his ex but never wants to get back with her. In summer last year he was transferred back to the States (I am in Germany still) and in October he got deployed to Iraq again. All this time his ex kept telling him that he is the love of her life and it was the dumbest mistake she could have done to let him go like that blablabla. For some reason he always kept on calling her or send her emails. Oh maybe I should mention that the ex is one of these control people that play their little games. She also has a son of which she holds my bf responsible although he is not the father, but because 10 years ago he didnt loan her money for an abortion. His sister told me about the abortion money and that the ex told him that she doesnt have any money to feed the baby and if the baby dies it will be his fault.
Anyways not too long ago they have been in email contact again and she also called him names and got all mad at him because he told her he is with me and he loves me. She said dont get in touch with me and stopped writing him, but kept on sending those email chain letters. My bf tries to call her from Iraq (it is hard to make phone calls for him from iraq!) and wrote her an email saying he didnt get through. And now she is being the sweetest again, she is using the same pattern over and over and he falls for it. She always tells him how hard her life is, how she has to work 2 jobs, that her husband and her are thinking about divorce, she doesn thave a place to stay etc etc.
Yesterday I brought the ex topic up again because he said he might go to his parents house earlier, depending on when he comes back from his deployment. I wanted to know if he will go see her when I am not there, in case I get there later. He said he doesnt even know if he wants to see her and he will not go see her alone, but if she was to come to his parents house with his family around she can do so.
I then wanted to talk about a compromise, because I rather dont want this to happen, I wanted to suggest that she can come see him when I am there. But it didnt even get that far, every time we talk about her, he gets mad at me and tells me I am insecure and I don't trust him and that I need to think if I want to be with him. And that he is free to do whatever and he doesnt need anybody telling him what to do. Also I told him that he needs to understand I have been through some hard times because of her, because he was horrible the first year of our relationship (yes with him away in Iraq) and always brought up things like he doesnt know if he can trust me lalala due to all the things she did.
Then he got mad because I said hard times and told me that I dont need to be with him when he gives me hard times and that at any time it is my decision to be with him or not. And then he left the chat conversation saying he doesnt want to talk to me until I make some more sense.
She even called his sister in law up who used to be her friend back in the day and keeps asking question about him and me, if he gets married and so on.
Now I wonder every time we talk about her he gets mad, every time she is mad with him he is mad with me or his family (who by the way hate her) and he always says I am insecure and dont trust him when I want to figure things out. Maybe I don't address the issue the right way or maybe I am actually not making any sense. But I have this impression that she has still some power over her, even if it is only through her child. I told him I think this is what it is and that somehow she always manages to make him feel bad and that I trust him but I dont trust her.
In all other ways he is a great and caring guy and I am the first girl he took to his parents house and all that and we plan to move in together in the States around January this year. He talks about future, children and marriage.
But I really don't know what to do about the ex or if I should do something. So far I am hiding myself on the messenger because I dont know what to say. And I surely dont want her in my relationship with him, regardless if they have been friends for such a long time.
Oh and he has some female friends and is in touch with another ex, but I don't care about that, I am in touch with two of my exes too, but none of them is sneaky like this ex. And the one sneaky ex I had, I cut all communications with.

Also, when they were dating he was sending money for the child and he always keeps telling me he is worried about her and her son.

WELL THIS IS THE PLACE FOR ME TO UNLOAD ABOUT MY HUSBANDS EX.AND CHILD
HERE IS MY PROBLEM , FOR 7 YRS NOW I HAVE PUT UP WITH THIS BITCH MANIPULATING MY HUSBAND, AND SHE USES THE CHILD TO GET TO HIM , AND TO MANIPULATE HIM , AND PUT A GUILT TRIP ON HIM HE JUST CAN NOT SEE IT !!!! MY HUSBAND IS SO GUTLESS THAT IT MAKES ME SICK ! HERE IS MY STORY, EVER SINCE WE GOT MARRIED HIS EX HAS MADE HER PLANS TO DO WHATEVER ON HER WEEKEND OFF FROM THE CHILD, WELL WHEN IT CAME OUR TIME TO HAVE OUR WEEKEND TO DO WHATEVER SHE WOULD CALL HIM AND ASK HIM IF HE WOULD TAKE THEIR DAUGHTER FOR THE WEEKEND, NOW MIND YOU IT DIDN'T MATTER TO MY HUBBY IF WE HAD PLANS OR NOT THE SUCKER WOULD SAY SURE NO PROBLEM ! WELL HE NEVER EVER BOTHERED TO ASK ME IF I HAD MADE ANY PLANS FOR US OR NOT, WHATEVER THE EX WANTED SHE GOT. HE USES THE EXCUSES OF WELL I DIDN'T THINK TO ASK OR WELL IT IS MORE TIME WITH MY DAUGHTER & I AM NOT DOING IT AS A FAVOR TO HER, BULLSHIT!
SO I GET MAD AT HIM AND OF COURSE YOU KNOW WHERE THAT LEAD . WELL AFTER FIGHTING HIM ON THIS ISSUE FOR MANY YRS I FINALLY SAID TO HELL WITH IT HE IS GONNA DO WHAT HE WANTS TO DO , AND SO HE TAKES THE CHILD ANY WAY. I AM JUST WASTING MY BREATH. I HAVE SAT DOWN AND TALKED WITH HIM AND TRIED TO REASON WITH HIM AND EXPLAINED HOW I FELT , THAT SHE IS THE EX AND HE NEEDS TO CONSIDER MY FEELINGS &OUR LIFE AND MARRIAGE. I DON'T MIND HIM HAVING THE EXTRA TIME WITH HIS DAUGHTER , WHAT I DO MIND IS BEING IGNORED AS TO WHAT MY FEELINGS ARE, AND HEARING HIM SAY I AM DOING IT FOR THE CHILD.
THEN ONE SAT MORN WE GOT UP AND WAS HAVING OUR COFFEE WHEN I ASKED HIM WHAT HIS PLANS FOR THE DAY WAS AND HE SAID , I DON'T KNOW I DON'T REALLY HAVE ANY PLANS WHY? I SAID I JUST WONDERED . WELL IT WASN'T BUT ABOUT 20 MINS LATER HE WAS PUTTING HIS SHOES ON AND I SAID TO HIM , OH ARE U GOING SOME WHERE, HE THEN REPLIED YES, AND I SAID OH WHERE, WELL HE THEN INFORMED ME THAT HE WAS GOING OVER TO HIS EX'S TO PUT BRAKES ON HER CAR BECAUSE HE SUPPOSEDLY OWED HER MONEY FOR HIS CHILDS MEDICAL BILLS, NEWS TO ME ! WELL YOU KNOW WHAT HIT THE FAN , AS WE HAD JUST GOTTEN INTO A ARGUEMENT THE NIGHT BEFORE ABOUT A WOMAN THAT HE WAS SUPPOSEDLY SEEING FROM WORK, THAT HIS OWN SISTER TOLD MY DAUGHTER HE WAS SEEING ON THEIR LUNCH HOUR. HE SAID IT WAS LUNCH ONLY, AND IT WAS TOTALLY INNOCENT, WELL IF IT WAS SO INNOCENT WHY DID HE FORGET TO MEINTION IT, AND NEVER DID TILL I CONFRONTED HIM ? ANY WAY TO GET BACK TO THE EX AND THE BRAKES, I SAID TO HIM WHY CAN'T YOU DO THE BRAKES HERE IN OUR SHOP, WE HAVE A 14' X 30' SHOP ON OUR PROPERTY, WELL HIS COMMENT WAS YOU KNOW SHE DON'T LIKE YOU AND YOU DON'T LIKE HER , WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT HAVE TO DO WITH BRINGING HER CAR OVER HERE TO WORK ON ?? YEA U GUESSED IT HE WENT TO HER HOUSE ANY WAY KNOWING I WAS PISSED AS HELL ! WELL FOR THE LAST 7 YRS IT HAS BEEN HIS WAY, AND THE EX'S WAY AND I AM FED UP ! NOW THE DAUGHTER IS 13YRS OLD AND SHE IS THE ANGEL, SHE COULD DO NO WRONG, YOU KNOW THAT KIND OF PARENTS ! WELL SHE HAS ALWAYS WANTED HER MOM & DAD TO GET BACK TOGETHER, WHICH IS NORMAL FOR A CHILD TO WANT , I UNDERSTAND THAT. WELL A FEW YEARS AGO THE CHILD WENT HOME AND TOLD HER MOTHER THAT I WOULD GIVE ALL THE CANDY SHE WANTED IF SHE WOULD TELL ME ABOUT HER MOTHERS BOYFRIENDS, LIKE I CARE WHAT SHE DOES AND WHO SHE SEES !OK WELL THAT DIDN'T GO WELL, THE EX CALLED MY HUSBAND AND THREATEN TO F" ME UP IF I DIDN'T TREAT HER DAUGHTER WITH RESPECT, THAT I UPSET HER AND B DOES NOT LIE, AND THAT IF SHE HAD TO SPEND THE REST OF HER LIFE IN PRISON , WELL SO BE IT. THE STATE WE LIVE IN THE LAW ALLOWS CONVERSATIONS TO BE RECORDED, WHICH WE HAD BEEN DOING BY THE ADVICE OF A ATTORNEY BECAUSE THIS WOMAN IS OUT OF CONTROL , AND TO COVER HIS BUTT IT WAS BEST TO DO THIS. WELL SHE CHEATED ON HIM MANY MANY TIMES, AND NOW THAT HE IS MARRIED SHE DOES NOT WANT HIM TO BE HAPPY, AND SHE IS THE ONLY ONE THAT IS SUPPOSE TO BE HAPPY AND MARRIED, BY THE WAY SHE IS 36 NOW AND ON HER 6TH MARRIAGE. WELL TO GET BACK TO THE RECORDING WHEN SHE FINALLY HUNG UP I LISTEN TO THE TAPE , AND I WAS MAD AS HELL BECAUSE MY HUSBAND SAT THERE AND LET HIS EX SAY ALL KINDS OF BAD CRAP ABOUT ME , AND NEVER ONCE SAID TO HER , LISTEN THIS IS MY WIFE YOU ARE TALKING ABOOUT AND I AM NOT GOING TO LISTEN TO IT, WHEN YOU CALM DOWN YOU CAN CALL ME BACK. WELL I WAS MAD BECAUSE HE DIDN'T TAKE UP FOR ME , TO ME THAT WAS DISRESPECTFUL. SO I ASKED HIM WHY HE DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING AND HIS REPLY WAS, THE WAY I LOOK AT IT IS STICK AND STONES. I ASKED HIM TO CALL HER BACK RIGHT AWAY AND TO TELL HER THAT HE WILL NOT ALLOW HER TO EVER TALK ABOUT ME THAT WAY TO HIM AGAIN, HE REUFSED AND TO THIS DAY HE NEVER HAS DONE ANYTHING, SO I TOOK OUT A WARRANT FOR HER ARREST FOR WHAT THEY CALL TERRORISTIC THREAT AND TOOK HER TO COURT, HE HE SHE WAS PUT IN HER PLACE BY THE JUDGE ,WHICH IS A FELONY IF CONVICTED. SINCE THAT DAY HE STOPPED ALL FEELINGS TOWARD ME , HE HAS BEEN SO DISTANT. ALL WELL I HAVE PUT UP WITH MORE AND MORE CRAP AND I AM SICK OF HIM AND HIS EXCUSES.
NOW HERE IT IS WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 7 YRS AND WE HAVE ALWAYS SMOKED IN OUR HOUSE, AND THE CHILD HAS BEEN COMING EVERY OTHER WEEKEND AND THEN SOME , WELL ALL OF A SUDDEN THE CIG SMOKES BOTHERS HER , SHE DOESN'T FEEL GOOD, SO HUNNY SAYS NO MORE SMOKING IN THE HOUSE OR AROUND THE CHILD. IT STRIKES ME FUNNY THAT AFTER 7 YRS THE CHILD JUST NOW SAYS SOMETHING ABOUT THE CIG SMOKE, WELL THIS DIDN'T GO OVER WELL WITH ME AS I WAS ABRUPTLY TO STOP SMOKING IN MY OWN HOME, WELL I GOT A LITTLE ADDITUDE ABOUT IT AND THAT PISSED HUBBY OFF. WELL MY ADDITUDE WAS TOUGH WE HAVE BEEN SMOKING IN THE HOUSE ALL THESE YRS, MAYBE IT WAS THE WRONG ADDITUDE BUT DAM THE EX HAS ALWAYS MORE OR LESS TOLD HIM WHAT TO DO , AND NOW THE KID IS DOING IT , HELL YEA I GOT A ADDITUDE. WELL THE WEEK BEFORE ALL THIS CAME ABOUT MY HUSBAND SAID HE WAS NOT HAPPY AND HASN'T BEEN FOR A FEW YRS AND WANTED A DIVORCE, WELL DAM THAT WAS A SHOCK TO ME ! I HAD NO CLUE ! WELL 2 WEEKS AGO WHILE HIS CHILD WAS HERE WE GOT INTO A ARGUMENT OVER ME SMOKING IN THE HOUSE, AND ONE WORD LED TO ANOTER, AND HE SAID MORE OR LESS I WAS BEING A BITCH , THEN HE BROUGT UP THE DIVORCE AGAIN , AND WELL AS THE CONVERSTATION WENT ON ABOUT THIS I GOT UPSET I WAS CRYING HYSTERICALLY , HIS CHILD SEEING ME DOING THIS , WELL I GOT SO ANGRY I JUST PULLED MY GLASSES OFF MY FACE AND BENT THEM IN HALF AND POPED THE LENS OUT AND THREW THEM ON THE FLOOR AND CONTINUED BALLING MY HEART OUT. WELL HIS DAUGHTER SAID THAT SHE DOESN'T WANT TO COME OVER ANYMORE BECAUSE OF ME. SO NOW HE WANTS ME TO MOVE OUT AND WE SHOULD GET A LEGAL SEPARATION. I FEEL LIKE THE CHILD , THE EX ARE RUNNING OUR LIFE, AND MARRIAGE, AND HUBBY DOESN'T CARE ALL HE IS WORRIED ABOUT IS THAT HIS CHILD WILL NOT COME OVER ANYMORE , SO HE HAS CHOSEN TO SPIT UP OUR MARRIAGE, AND HE WILL KEEP MEDICAL INS ON ME , OH AND IF HE HAS THE MONEY HE WILL HELP ME GET MY MONTHLY MEDS, AS I HAVE HEART DIEASE, AND NUMEROUS MEDICAL PROBLEMS , HE MADE 52,000.00 THIS YEAR AND ALL I GET IS MEDICAL INS AND MAYBE MONEY FOR MEDS IF HE HAS IT ? SO AM I SUPPOSE TO JUST UP AND MOVE OUT TO PLEASE HIM AND THE CHILD AND THE EX ? I DON'T THINK SO , MY QUESTION IS: WHAT DO I DO ABOUT THE EX , THE CHILD AND THE HUSBAND WHO ONLY THINKS OF HIMSELF .
TELL ME AM I WRONG TO WANT A LIFE WHERE THE CHILD AND EX DO NOT MAKE THE DECSIONS AND HAVE HIM WRAPPED AROUND THEIR FINGERS . OH GOD HELP ME , HE IS GOING TO DRIVE ME TO INSANITY ! PLEASE HELP I APPRECIATE ALL CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM.

Wow, I guess alot of women are going through the same sh@t. I have been with my BF for a year now. I Have 3 boys, he has a 9 year old son with his Ex of 12 years.

She cheated on him with a close family member for 5 years. He found out about it and left her. I guess while separated he still did things for her and said it was for the son.

I came in the pic 1 year after the breakup and she told her son that I was the reason that daddy was not coming back home. She also told the son that she hated me.

My bf and I have the son 3 days a week and 1 over night on the weekends. I love the child dearly and all the kids get along very well. The ex would call everyday to talk to him but she would always have the sons name in the conversation to make it sound like it was about him. Also she would call and ask my bf to go fix her car. On many occasions she called in the morning asking him to bring the child something for breakfast and to get her a coffee also,he would get out of our bed after making love to me and go do just that. I did got mad and the next time she called I told him that if he went I would not be here when he got back and guess what he did not go.

Since then it has not been as bad but I still think that he needs to speak up to her, he said that he don't want to fight because of the kids, but the kid is not there when they talk because she calls him when the kid is in school and he is at work. I hate that. why not call him at our house. She knows that for the same 3 days every week we have son and she knows when we pick him up, but she will still call and ask when are you coming to get him. I told him to tell her about that and that if plans were to change we would call her.

Another thing that bugs me is that she has another son from a previous relationship and he pays child support for him and his son. I don't mind that so much but she still calls him asking for money to get the kids movies/games, lunches at school, hair cuts, clothing, and so on.(I think she does it so can have extra money for herself) he always gives her money towards it, But why when he already gave her CS and every other day she is wasting money on things for herself that she don't need. should he pay the extra money.

Should I put my foot down and tell him I don't want him talking to her at all or am I being selfish because I know she wants him back because she has told him on the phone.