Hey Guys,

A few of you posted on one of my forums a few weeks ago (Why Do We Take Full Responsibility?). I wanted to thank all of you and give you an update. After 2 weeks of staying at my Mom's house, I decided to go back last Monday. Those 2 weeks were hell, but here is what I came up with. I really love my husband, but I dislike the way his child and him treat me (as far as I feel like a maid, taxi cab driver, babysitter, cook , ect. lol). I was completely done and not ready to go back but I think my husband got a dose of what I deal with in those 2 weeks. We had a 3 hour talk about what needed to change. It was great, he told me what he felt about me and how I was acting, and I told him the same and we both talked about ss9 and he admitted that he knows his son has issues and that he disrespects me and that he needs discipline and that he knows i do everything. We didn't argue at all, even after I said that BM was never held accountable about anything but I was and ss9 isn't even my child. I think he realized some things after our talk. I even realized some things about myself. I was in shock. It was very productive. He actually came up with the idea that I disengage. I have thought about it before but didn't know if I could do it and I didn't want to offend my husband. It is way easier than I thought. This last week has been great. I hope it lasts. Everyone in the house is less stressed and getting along better. My husband has even scheduled some well needed alone time for us. I hope this works out. Counseling for all of us will be starting again soon.