Ok, so I disengaged in September and it's been working. But in the last 2 weeks my husband is starting to get defensive about his son again. Why? I don't say anything bad about him or do anything with him as far as disciplining, ect. We could be talking about something that has nothing to do with his son and he brings his son up and gets defensive and says that he thought that was where the conversation was going. Really? So this morning I say something about ss going to his mom's this weekend. My husband is working from 9am-5pm on saturday and I am working from 7pm-11pm (I am ok with watching his son during the day, but if bm wants to take ss Im not going to argue). So DH is all like "oh good, can you take ss to his karate belt test?" If you don't know anything about belt tests, they take hours (Anywhere from 4-6 depending on how many kids are testing and they have to stay there the whole time). So I say, "you may want to talk to ss about it, he might want his mom or dad there so you may want to look into the make up test". I said this because ss always craps on me. When I used to take him to soccer (when his dad couldn't take him and his mom didn't show up), instead of being grateful, he would mope on the sidelines. I tried to explain to DH that when I was young and played sports, I wanted my parents there. He was all disgruntled and annoyed and was like "Ill take care of it, he can test on Monday, I already talked to the instructors". Ok, so why get mad? You already knew this may be an issue if you already talked to the instructors. I don't know, maybe his freaking mother could take him? WTF? It is so frustrating. So I asked if he was mad or wanted to talk about anything and he said "ss is getting better with you, i don't think he would have a problem with you taking him". I didn't say it but I was thinking...ss is not MY responsibility which is why I disengaged and why do I have to waste my day with a child that doesn't even want me around? Before I left, we were fine. I just wanted to vent because why the hell is this my problem and why are we starting to get all defensive about ss again?