Hello,

I just wanted to vent. A little background...BM and I have never had any drama. She and my husband can't get along, but I've always been civil and even did all of the scheduling with her for a while. No nastiness has ever been exchanged between us. BM is a stripper (yes, you need to know that). BM is also an alcoholic and we believe she is also on drugs. We let SS go to see her because she takes him to her sister's house so we know he is safe. At the beginning of September I left my husband for 2 weeks because of his parenting with his son, the way his son treated me, because of the way I felt like an outsider and that my husband and I never had alone time because his son comes first, how BM was never held accountable for anything and I was always stuck with SS, SS has behavorial problems, ect. We got back together and are working on things and things are going pretty good. About 2 weeks ago I got a call from BM's Mother. BM's Mother said that she heard that we were having problems due to BM. I laughed and told her that our problems had nothing to do with BM and she has no bearing on our relationship at all (because she really doesn't), then her Mom went on to ask if it was because of my stepson and I said yes but we are working on things and then we kind of got off of the subject. BM's Mother goes on to tell me not to let her daughter start any trouble between me and DH because BM is a lying manipulative bitch and she's going to try to start trouble (yes, this is coming from HER mom). Her sister also called me the same day and basically told me the same thing. Well thank goodness they did that. This past weekend BM was supposed to pick SS up at 12 noon on Saturday. She called DH last week and told him noon and called SS on Friday night and said she would be there at noon. Well Saturday rolls around and I leave for work at noon. BM wasn't there yet (no shocker, she is usually late). I get a call on my way to work from BM, she can't pick him up, her ride cancelled on her (she doesn't have a license because she doesn't pay child support), so I tell her to call DH because Im at work. She calls DH and tells him that her ride cancelled and that he could just bring ss to her. DH actually stood his ground and said no you can either pick him up or you don't see him...well she flipped out. I called and asked her what was going on (because usually I am the peacemaker) and she flipped out and told me that she had told ME that she was picking him up at 12:30pm, I told her that we didn't even talk last week (because we didn't) and she said well I told someone that maybe I told DH, and I said no, you told your son that last night and she called me a bitch and I said, yeah Im the bitch thats raising YOUR son, and told her to grow the f up and hung up. I was shaking. I couldn't believe I said that but it felt so good. She then calls back and says that my husband hits on her all of the time and flirted with her while I was staying at my Mom's, so I told her that she was a really good mother and thats why she has no custody, so she hung up. She called me back again, and lol says, your husband came and got a lapdance from me (she was more explicit, not appropriate to post), how does that make you feel? I told her that it made me feel like she's a whore (I know, not nice, but hey). I called her back and she didn't answer. I wrote her an email later after work and she blocked me, so I facebooked her. I wrote..."I tried to call you back but you didn't answer. I can't believe you think that I am insecure enough to believe any of your bullshit. If you really cared about SS you would act like a grown woman and get yourself together. I actually feel sorry for you. If you think you are causing any trouble on our end, you are wasting your energy. Maybe you should take that energy and put it towards making yourself a better person." I can't believe this really went down, lol. I am glad that her family gave me a warning but can you believe she actually went that far? I know all of it is complete bullshit, I just can't believe she stooped that low.