SD14 has always beeen an A/B student. Her last report card had a C on it. It's not the end of the world, we just shut off her cell phone until she could bring the grade back up. Well progress reports have come out for midterm, she wouldn't have showed me except I asked for it. EVERY class has dropped by two letter grades. A's have now become C's, B's have now become D's. She has NEVER had a D on anything before. BF and I are livid. We have eliminated TV, the computer, her iPod, all after school activities etc. That was Thursday. Friday I got called back for a second interview for a job. I asked SD14 to watch DD1 while I was gone. I reminded her not to go on the computer because she is grounded from it. I keep my computer on because our house phone is through the internet and I want her to be able to call for help if something happens. I was gone for no longer than 45 minutes. When I returned I checked the computer history and saw that an app on facebook had been recently visited. I do have a fb account, but didn't access that app. I questioned SD14 who denied she was on the computer. I told her about the app and she "swore on her life" that she wasn't on it. I decided to let it go. About a half hour later I was typing and email and went to copy and paste a link. I messed up and instead of copying first, I right clicked and pasted. Imagine my surprise when I saw something that SD14 had written. It was a sentence telling one of her friends that her dad is at work until 6 and I was gone at an interview so she had 15 minutes to chat, and since it was date night for us that she would be on after we left.

After I saw the message I screamed for SD14 to get out of her room. I had to hold BD1 in order to avoid striking SD14. She came out and I asked her why she lied to me and if she thought I was stupid. She didn't respond. That made me more angry. The yelling continued for another ten minutes with SD14 breaking down in tears and saying all she wanted was attention. I asked if she liked the attention she was getting now.

I'm not so concerned about her grades improving right now because I know they will. I've already made arrangements with her school to go to school with her next week, all week. I will be sitting by her in each and every class and at lunch. I will walk with her from class to class. I'm hoping it will mortify her enough to pull her head out of her ass.

So, my question is this... BF thinks that we have taken so much from SD14 already that there is nothing really else to do. I say we make her delete her facebook and myspace accounts. Any opinions?