Yes, I am in the same boat!
BM kicked the kids out of her home because they TRIEd to ruin her marriage and they hit her LITTLE kids (accidentally of course-they are very JEALOUS!)

Helping around the house---his petite little 160 pound kids would kill themselves. We are getting ready to do a Do it Yourself Military move and husband looked at me and asked if I was going to help. I explained to him that My son and I would help UNTIL the moment I saw him expecting us to lift anything heavier than he expected the petite angels to lift. I explained that if I could lift it and if my son (who weighs less than them and only a few months older)could lift it then they would get off their ass and do the same or the game was off and we would NOT lift a finger.

It really is disgusting to watch and I even stopped having sex with my husband and now sleep on the couch BUT I am getting ready to move my desk from the marital bedroom into my daughter's room and move another matress in under her bunk bed (it sits high) and sleep in her room until the move. I no longer see him as masculine as it is hard to do when I witness him being pushed around by a 13 year old and when they both talk to him as though they are way smarter...and they are smarter than him because they talk their way out of everything either with guilt or whatever else works....to me he is just a beaten little boy who is henpecked by his other wives....I am just the, well I haven'tfigured what I am yet as I REFUSE to be their slave

I am horrible with advice but from my standpoint at last I know you are right there with me! Good luck!

Oh yeah and with my son....husband cannot stand him...there was even an incident where husband "restrained" son during a meltdown...son said he was choking him and a case was opened up against husband, CPS did fault him for physical violence" and now he has to fight the Navy. Much of the time my son does not even acknowledge husband's existence, he is not rude just has nothing he wants to speak to him about...he knows it is pointless!

"The pic reminds me of the slaveboy and his queens in this home...it depicts a kid ruling her Big daddy...how sweet! What it doesn't show is the Big Daddy bowing and thanking them for the abuse and begging for more"!

...It is so sad for the kids and I hate it for all that are in this situation.

That is funny about your son asking if she had a crush on her father I love it! My husband, when I accuse his "whiner" of that has asked her straight out but it always starts with "she says....is it true...." Well duh, how in the hell do you think she will answer. He asked her the questions in such a manner that she knows what answer she is supposed to give and even the counselor has tried telling my husband that depending on how the question is asked will be the answer given...she has reminded him that he is a cop and should know how that works.....Like I have stated my husband thinks he is so smooth and no one else notices his bizarre actions

My husband actually walked in one day and my son was sitting on the marital bed where his KIDS SIT FREQUENTLY with their feet all over it and husband turns a blind eye BUT he had the nerve to tell me son to go ahead and get undressed and fuck me since he KNOWS that is what my son wants to do!!!!! My son told him to shut up!

That was the one and only time my son has ever talked back or been outright "disrespectful" and do you know my husband had the nerve to say that he wanted an apology from my son for telling him to "shut up"....I couldn't believe.

Husband said that he had a right to tell my son to fuck me in the bed because I tell his kids that all the time. First of all, I have NEVER asked his main wife if they are fucking and I have never told her to strip and fuck her father.....NEVER BUT I have told husband that the way he acts with her that it seems like they are fucking each other. I have never told his kid to do that

Yes, it is a messed up situation and yes, I know that I WILL be leaving BUT only when I am ready....my son and myself will have ALL of the support we will ever need in San Diego so the only one whose true colors are gleaming are husband's and karma is a bitch! THe older he gets the harder it is for him to hide his insanity and true colors, counselor has called him out a couple of times which is why I quit because he started to feel threatened and quickly had to make me look like the "bad guy" even if that meant lying and I refused to go with him

I will be starting back with her next week because I loved her and she still sees "whiner" and she helped with my son.....I missed having her to talk to BUT was not going to counseling to defend myself against lies and a psychopath...do enough of that at home

Fortunately she knew he was lying because the 1st time he tried it I said "I was leaving and would not defend against lies"...he was trying to say that when my son and "whiner" verbally argue...she thrives on starting it, that I always send "whiner" to her room....NOT TRUE at all. Anyhow, counselor called "whiner" into the room and asked her about it without digging for the "right" answer and "whiner" unknowingly made it clear it was not the way he said

The second time he did this (this round of marriage-happened on the first round but I was too stupid to stand up to it-not stupid just uncertain what to do)was when he had talked to me the night before we went to the counselors and he had made a comment to me that he doesn't like to discipline his kids because he knows it makes me "cream in my pants" when he does do something. I told the counselor what he had said, she questioned him on it, he denied it and kept dancing around the subject trying to lie, she kept asking and he continued with the games so I stood up and said I was done with counseling and wasting time with his lies....I left and never went back, that was about a month ago.

"The pic reminds me of the slaveboy and his queens in this home...it depicts a kid ruling her Big daddy...how sweet! What it doesn't show is the Big Daddy bowing and thanking them for the abuse and begging for more"!

Me too Mich...me too.