Hi, I'm new here so forgive me if I don't know all of the correct lingo. I am married; we have a one year old and I'm currently pregnant. My husband has a 13 year old son from a previous relationship. My husband obtained custody of his son right around the time we got married about three and a half years ago. In the beginning I had an open mind and tried to make it a nice, cohesive family arrangement. I never overstepped my bounds and I never overdid anything; yet, it always remained a them vs. me feel. My husband, with good intentions, didn't want to "burden" me with responsibilities of doing everything for his son so he pretty much did everything, but it essence shut me out. I was never informed of anything going on with stepkid. I always asked, but seemed to be the last to know anything. That has always been a main source of our problems. Over the years, I have built up a sense of resentment. My husband never seems to understand my feelings in any of this. I basically disengaged and had the "whatever" attitdue when it comes to stepkid. My stepson and I have no relationship. He has a very dry personality and we barely talk. It makes for an uncomfortable enviornment. Anyway, I could go on and on.... but back to the main reason for the post....stepson usually goes to his mom's house on the weekends, which I loooooooove two little days of just peaceful feeling and enjoyment. He doesn't go every single weekend though. Here's the problem my family lives about 7 hours away by car so we don't see them often. We are going this upcoming long weekend and I'm looking forward to spending time with my mom, siblings and their families and my family (my husband, baby and I). I realllllly do not want stepson to go. Anytime in the past that he has gone he sits up under his dad the entire time, never says a word and it's so awkward and ridiculous. I can't enjoy the time with my husband because he feels he has to entertain stepson. There are no other kids his age (13yo) there and it's just so annoying. My husband always feels bad like it would hurt his feelings if he told him he couldn't go. My thing is, it's going to visit MY family who he has no relation to at all, why can't you just tell him he will need to go to his mom's this weekend???? He's with us ALL of the time otherwise. It's not like this is a family vacation that we are excluding him from. Plus, there's not really going to be any extra bedrooms for him anyway. I don't know how my husband plans on handling it, but I'm to the point that I'd rather just have him stay home this weekend with his precious wittle son rather than him coming with us. Yes, his pregnant wife would drive 7 hours with a one year old by themselves....and I doubt he'd even care. He's probably mad at me right now for even suggesting that his son needs to go to his bio-mother's house and not come. SO, am I being unreasonable?? Or does what I say make sense??