I have a random question, of sorts. My DH is NCP with SD8. He has standard visitation order in TX and is granted 1st, 3rd, and 5th weekends with additional time for summer, spring break and holidays as allocated by the courts. Anyhow, his work schedule fluctuates and his days off change every three months. Having said that, and not wanting to bore anyone with an ENORMOUSLY long history, SD8 has been alienated from her Dad by BM to the point that SD8 causes massive problems in our home when she is here if DH is not home. I've come to the conclusion and DH agrees that SD doesn't need to come over when DH isn't here to care for her. Obviously it's an issue for SD (as well as me, I don't take kindly to being treated like crap by a kid just because she has issues over her Dad and BM splitting - wasn't my fault and I'm not taking the heat for it any longer!) and so to please everyone DH has talked to BM about modifying the visitation schedule on an as needed basis. Anyhow, she initially agreed to it but is now claiming she's "standing up for herself" and isn't willing to make any special arrangements or amendments to the standard visitation agreement. My question is does anyone else have any experience (positive or negative) with attempting to modify visitation so that it suits the NCP's schedule and accommodates everyone?

Just for clarification, the "special arrangement" DH is requesting is something as simple as pick her up on a Friday and return her Saturday (he works on Sunday at the moment). He is simply asking for some flexibility on BM's part and she's suddenly unwilling to cooperate (not surprised!).