Not even sure if this belongs here...
The issues with my SD20 and SD31 have been quiet lately, but here's a story from the other side - So…long story short, my ex (kids’ sperm donor) is an alcoholic and made our lives miserable, so I finally gave him the boot several years ago. He has yet to accept blame or apologize for his verbal/mental/physical abuse, but instead blames everyone else. Since then he has ignored his kids and his grandkids. Doesn’t show up at birthday parties, etc., doesn’t call them, didn’t acknowledge the birth of his 3rd grandchild, etc. After not seeing or speaking to them for what I believe is at least a year, he sees them at a funeral. They exchange phone numbers, and what does he do? He sends them pictures of his new ex-wife’s (yep, she divorced him too) grandchild! He must be so proud that his step-son is in prison for murder and his step-daughter is a goth freak. Is he trying to punish us, or me in particular, for not putting up with his crap anymore? Hmmm...
Let it wash over you. I am
Let it wash over you. I am in my 50s, have an estranged father and 3 older half brothers one now deceased with whom I am very little in touch (though I am fond of the brothers). Every so often I hear from or about these people who float up like a bit of torn newspaper in the big river of life. Then they bob away. For example, my eldest half brother has just emailed after 20 years of silence, to say he had a dream about me. We emailed to and fro a couple of times, then he disappeared off the ether again. One never quite loses a connection with anyone, I feel. It's how one reacts that matters.