I guess this is the sequel to the first post I had, so if you need more background info, check out "Jealous 16yo ST" thread..

So yesterday was Canada Day, a highly anticipated family day, and we were all excited. It has special meaning to OH and I, and it was a great day. Fireworks were to start at 10:15, but at around 9:30, the mood changed.

It was DD, myself and OH... We were laying, enjoying the music, when I noticed DD was texting, and noticed it was SD texting her.. Now several months ago, SD deleted and banned my oldest DD, the same age as her, because she said she could not bear watching other children have a relationship with OH, and didn't want my girls in her life. This made the fact that they were texting back and fourth, frantically, suspicious to me, so I was overlooking the conversation from behind DD, who was laying on me.

SD very nonchalantly asks DD if her dad is with us. She then starts leading into some other questions, and eventually more or less tries to tell me DD that I was having an affair with OH while I was with my ex husband and DD's dad (NOT even a little bit true)...DD was devastated and started crying, as I was consoling her, I look up to OH, who is unaware of whats going on, only to see he is texting now too...I ask if it's SD and he nods, but I see he's angry.

So now we are at the pique of the day, the moment I have been waiting for, and here's DD and OH frantically texting little miss thing (SD), and I realize, I am standing completely alone, for the first time in 10 months we have been a couple, and I feel empty, and abandoned. This is the first time I am legitimately pissed at SD, not just hurt or confused. Somehow from 13 hours away, she has managed to steal and distract my family, and left me alone at a significant moment.

OH slams his phone down, and leans down to DD and whispers something to her, then looks at me and says, "That's it, it's over, she is not in my life anymore."(referring to SD) and DD starts crying. I go to DD to find out whats wrong and she claims OH has yelled at her... I assure her that he is just upset over whats going on, and that I know there's no way he intentionally yelled at her, and if he did it was just a misdirected tone of anger as he is upset with SD. I ask OH if he yelled at her and he says no, he told DD to stop talking to SD for now, til we can talk about things. He immediately consoles DD and apologizes if he seemed to be yelling at her, and he again talked to her when we got home, explaining and apologizing.

So I am standing there, being distant, because I am confused, upset, and honestly angry, and OH is now trying to save the night with affection, but I have no idea what's going on, and stay distant, which upsets him.

When we get back to the car, and DD is in the car, I ask what the hell is going on.

So SD basically tells him during those texts, that he loves me more than her (uhm.. different type of love?), that blood is thicker than water and he should never love anyone else more than her. That she has gotten a new job and now will only be coming out for 5 days and he Stepdad will be flying her and her brother out for that, and she doesn't want to see him at all, that he hasn't bought them Christmas presents, or a present for SS's bday, that he has cancelled every trip we have planned for them to come out. She basically just runs off at the mouth, telling him he is a lousy dad, who does nothing for them, and that she is done with him, throughout this, telling him it's because of me!

K, well.. A) SHE has cancelled every trip we've planned We bought her a $300 rind for her bday that she fails to list in all the things we haven't done C)Their Christmas gifts were a concert we bought them tickets for when they were supposed to come down in March, but then SHE cancelled the trip, making the tickets garbage, and she knew that, D)His sons bday present is sitting here for when they come next week E)She chose to get a job a week before coming down and shortening their trip from 2 weeks to 5 days, and we are still expected to spend 4 days in the car to go get them?

So last night, I asked OH if I leave, can you have a relationship with your kids? Cause I'm tired of being in the middle! He says no, and that's not an option. He says I am his happiness and nothing is any different between him and the kids since we have been together, so this is all nonsense.

In the middle of all this somewhere is 13yo SS who doesn't seem to get a say in seeing his dad! I have never met either of these kids, but SS and I goof around on FB together all the time.

So I told OH, he has to call his ex today and get this straightened out. If SD doesn't want to see OH, fine, but SS should be allowed to come on his own then. Its not fair that SD gets the power to determine that relationship for him. Well, OH's ex wont answer the phone...

I am having a really hard time with all this, I sat in the bathroom for an hour this morning, just trying to get my head straight. Knowing I shouldn't be taking this all personally, but still running my head into the wall, with why the hell it IS happening in the first place. I just don't get it.

I am hurting for OH, for my DD's who somehow get drug in, Myself because I honestly don't deserve this...
This time is is affecting OH and my relationship, because I am very withdrawn and sensitive and hurt right now, and he is taking it personally, and I am feeling some hostility for stupid things. I couldn't sleep last night, was up crying all night, and he snored through it..Should that bother me? Probably not.. He is one of the most sensitive, supportive men, but I am overly needy right now. I'm worried that my own hurt is not allowing me to support him when he really needs it either.

UGGGGG Thanks for reading.