Vent...
So it's been almost 6 years since my husband and I have been together and BM will not leave us alone!!! She still has in her mind that my DH is going to leave me and blames me for "wrecking" their would be happy family. (My step son was born from a drunk night where BM said she was on BC and really wasn't.) She despises me for that and the fact that my step son calls me mom. (Friends and family have always called me by my real name, my step son chose to call me mom on his own.) Just this past weekend we skyped with my four year old step son and showed him his bedroom we have set up for him when he vistis. He went back and said something about mommy and daddy and she flew off the handle (we think she punishes him when he refers to me as mom) and he told her that mommy and daddy have a room for him and he's moving. This prompted her to begin a text war with my DH (she refuses to call and speak to him) wanting to know why my step son calls me mom and that he needs to stop. We have court comming up soon and she has been violating the order since its been set almost 2 years ago. We are attempting to gain full custody bc we feel we would be better suited to raise him. By no means do I want to take a child from his mother but she isnt taking care of him and uses him as a pawn to dangle in front of my DH. The child is 4 and weighs 95lbs yet not one doctor sees a problem with this. The child can't go to the bathrrom without taking all of his clothes off bc he will pee on himself. He cant dress himself. He only wants to eat fast food or fried food. He doesn't eat "real" meat when hes with his BM. Sorry for the vent just alot of pent up frustration and not sure what to do with it all. Six years has been a long time dealing with all of this.... :/
I'm thinking you and your DH
I'm thinking you and your DH will have no problem gaining full custody of this poor child.
thank you for your support.
thank you for your support. Wish there were more people like you on this page. Apparently I was sadly mistaken....
i wasn't picking on one
i wasn't picking on one person in particular and I apoligize if I made it seem that way. This has just been hard and on going for quite some time. My husband has tried to discourage the habit but my SS simply argues with him and says, "no that's mommy." I dont want to punish a child for the same thing his BM already punishes him for. I thank you for your feedback. I just feel that often when I come on sites like these people are to quick to judge instead of knowing the whole story. The BM is mentally unstable yet we cant prove it. She's already admitted to the childs psychologist that she keeps him up till 2-3am and feeds him whever he is hungry and he bullys kids at daycare but it's ok bc "they deserved it" I don't understand how someone can call themselves a mother yet not mother the child.
^^^THIS
^^^THIS
I understand that you aren't
I understand that you aren't trying to get into my business and maybe I should clarify. My step son turns five in a month and my husband and I will be together 6 years in March of 2013. My step son was concieved 3 weeks before my DH and I got together. He didn't even know she was pregnant until 4 months after the fact. I chose to stay with my husband bc it happened before me.
I agree with the name thing and I dont speak to the BM at all. I tried to be nice to her when this first started but she didn't want any part in it so I left it go.
when the child was born
when the child was born (after she already screamed at him for not "stepping up") she didn't even know if it was my DH's they had to wait for a paternity test which she refused to take until she took him for child support and he demanded one. (not until my SS was 6 months old) My husband has ALWAYS been there for his son when she's allowed it. She continues to break court orders and I feel like we go to court every few months yet she gets a slap on the wrist, a new court order and on our merry way. There have been periods of 6 months where my husband hasn't had any contact with his child bc she doesnt want him to. I just dont understand the courts and get very frustrated with it....
He has a BM but I wouldn't
He has a BM but I wouldn't call her a mom. She doesn't bother with him unless it's to piss my DH off. He's either with my DH's mother or with other members of her family, not her, which is why we are going for full costody of the child.
Again maybe I should clarify.
Again maybe I should clarify. My step son turns five in a month and my husband and I will be together 6 years in March of 2013. My step son was concieved 3 weeks before my DH and I got together. He didn't even know she was pregnant until 4 months after the fact. I chose to stay with my husband bc it happened before me.